Articles tagged with: theT
The fact of the matter is that I haven’t had chest surgery and probably won’t be able to for at least 3 or 5 years. Try as I might with layering, binding, etc… the chest exists. I can cover it up as best as I can, but I am hyper-aware that they can be felt when someone hugs me… or at least that’s what I worry. I also worry that it prevents the other person from really just thinking of me as just a guy with no adjective in front of that word (and no unwelcome flesh in front of me). Doesn’t matter who it is hugging me, the person could be queer, straight, cis, trans, whatever; it is always a concern in floating around in my head.
Emotionally speaking, changing genders is a nightmare. The wreck it renders one’s psyche is one I’ll never fully comprehend. And unless you do-it-yourself, you never will either. Sure, the scars inherent may seem self-evident to sympaticos. But just because we’re becoming more cognizant of the Trans-Atlantic plight, that does mean those scars don’t still mar. Again, as a heteronormative “cissy,” luckily, I’ll never have to know it myself. My biology is just not that cruel. Speaking of, often lost in the tumult of transitioning is the physical toil it exerts on the body. It’s like that emo nightmare made manifest. A white Saxon trapped only in the cage of his own Protestant body, I don’t do pain too well. (Actually, my threshold for it is pretty much non-existent.) In other words, I could not suffer what Lisa Jackson does here so bravely.
Gender Identity, Personal Narratives »
Dating a transguy, and coming to terms with the disconnect between my appearance and my true self, has given me new perspective on the contradictions that come with being queer in a society that presumes heterosexuality and rigid gender boundaries. Coming out to new friends seemed easier when I had girlfriends to bring around; now it takes a more complicated explanation. It’s a fine line to walk–being honest about my relationship without feeling like I’m treating my partner like a token or verging on TMI-territory with folks who want the finer details of surgeries and hormone effects. Ultimately, the trans-bomb is my partner’s to drop, but he’s open enough to encourage me to come out (again) to close family and friends and field their questions about trans life.
The discussion of trans bodies and sexual identities is one that, understandably, comes up a lot. There are many opinions on how people should or shouldn’t react to trans bodies, and how such people can or should be able to identify. I think that these topics are very valid and should be talked about. I just want to say before I start talking that these are only my thoughts. Yours might be different, that’s totally okay, and I would love to hear about them.
Spawn of Cher, Chaz Bono, has been making the media rounds in promotion of his new documentary and book that detail his transition from female to male. Canonball’s James Worsdale examines Chaz’s interactions with a clueless, curious and caustic public, particularly around the apparently touchy subject of fellow child to celebrity parents, Shiloh Jolie-Pitt.
I attended my first wedding this past weekend, at the age of 20. Interesting to be new to the wedding scene at that age, an age where conflicting emotions about love and lust are raging inside of you; becoming an angry young man (or however you personally identify) and a gentle romantic, and switching between the two in a matter of minutes.
Gender Identity »
Culture, Television »
Covering transgendered issues in mainstream television is a really difficult thing to do. Pronoun confusion might in fact be the lesser of all the potential pitfalls in documenting a subject that be confusing and uncomfortable for not only the subjects of the story but the viewer as well. The Oprah Winfrey Network has made an honest attempt at discussing transgendered issues recently, via Lisa Ling’s “Transgendered Lives” episode of Our America. This week the network will again prompt trans discussion by airing Becoming Chaz, a documentary about Chaz Bono’s transformation from a woman to a man.
I have lived in Maryland for most of my life; I go to college in this state and am registered to vote here. Admittedly, I have a kind of hate/tolerate-and-kind-of-like relationship with the state, but it seems like anytime I find something semi-decent or cool here, something arises to reminds me why I have spent most of my time here despising it.