Sometimes looking, acting, identifying, and generally being regarded both socially and legally as a man just isnt enough, at least as far as El’Jai Devoureau is concerned.

For those of you who havent heard of the case, according to the New York Times, Devourea was fired from his job of watching male bodied people in a rehab center pee in a cup to ensure that they were not cheating their results. His boss found out that he was trans and then she subsequently fired him for failing to meet the requirements for the job-specifically that he was not born with a bundle of veins, nerves, and skin that was initially called a penis.

Apparently there is still a debate about whether or not Trans people should be included in LGBT. But what does a trans person think about that?

I thought it would be tough to top the transphobia of the SNL skit. And then I cam across Craig Ferguson’s “half sister Peg.”

Take a good look at your ID. Presumably it looks like you even if you have to squint a little. What if it didn’t look like you at all?

Gender (much like sex) can quickly become very sticky, messy, and satisfying when it is done in a way that feels right. At the same time, when it is done wrong, it is all you can do to keep yourself from counting ceiling tiles until it is finally over. Even though we should all know that sex and gender are separate categories, that does not mean that they aren’t intermingling like the pile of laundry on my floor.

Odds are that if you are reading this, you grew up in a virulently sex-negative culture. By sex-negative, I mean a set of beliefs that believes sexuality should be never be discussed openly and honestly. It is the same thing that makes people of any sexual persuasion feel as if they should be ashamed of whatever it is that they might be doing with themselves or others. This is the culture that seeks to demonize anyone who would take control of their sexuality. Slut. Whore. Skank. Cheater. Creep. Freak. Pervert. The list could be endless but they all basically amount to one word: Deviant.