From Lesbos With Love: Groping: Just a Guy Thing?
The whole thing seems so impersonal to me. I have a hard time imaging the situation and wonder what his motivation is and if it’s premeditated. Maybe the guy knows he’ll be going home alone and this is his only chance to get some action. Or maybe he’s just drunk and wants to cop a feel. I hate to stereotype but does it have to do with men having a hyper sex drive? Do you guys like this? Is it a turn on? Some men must find it uncomfortable. Does anybody ever speak up, or is that taboo? Perhaps it’s just accepted as part of the culture.
In a straight club or bar it would be considered sexual harassment or at the very least creepy. What makes it different in a gay club?
Maybe I’m just having a difficult time wrapping my head around it, but I was stunned when my friend told me this is often the norm.
I’ve been groped before but usually it’s the classic ass slap or a suggestive lingering hand along my back or shoulder, and it’s usually followed by a wink or a compliment of some sort. Sometimes it’s flattering. Sometimes it feels like a challenge. Actually, I think in the lesbian world there’s a fine line between groping and flirting. I just can’t imagine a woman grabbing my boob or slipping her hand between my legs as she passes by.
It can’t be that lesbians are just classier. Maybe we value personal space or respect our bodies more. Maybe it happens across gay culture and I just haven’t exposed myself to sleazy-enough bars. But I would venture to guess that groping occurs primarily in mostly male gay bars and since I’m at a loss for words, I want to ask my readers: Why?
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