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Now, this not to say that all Orthodox kids are sheltered and completely aware of LGBTQ identities, because that’s certainly not true. Actually, my two best and most accepting friends on campus happens to be a straight, cisgender Orthodox guy and his girlfriend. Yet, on the whole, it hasn’t been a pretty picture. There are people who have known me for almost a year, have heard people refer to me as “he” or as a guy, but still call me “she” or include me in statements such as “we have x number of girls right now”.

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The fact of the matter is that I haven’t had chest surgery and probably won’t be able to for at least 3 or 5 years. Try as I might with layering, binding, etc… the chest exists. I can cover it up as best as I can, but I am hyper-aware that they can be felt when someone hugs me… or at least that’s what I worry. I also worry that it prevents the other person from really just thinking of me as just a guy with no adjective in front of that word (and no unwelcome flesh in front of me). Doesn’t matter who it is hugging me, the person could be queer, straight, cis, trans, whatever; it is always a concern in floating around in my head.

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Best of all, Hermione is a true feminist. At first glance, Hermione appears to stick strictly to the rules. However, the truth is Hermione is constantly challenging the system and pushing others to consider the deep-seeded inequality faced by the non-privileged members of the wizarding world. In Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix, Hermione comes up with the idea to start a clandestine student resistance movement called Dumbledore’s Army. In Harry Potter and The Goblet of Fire, when Hermione learns of the existence of enslaved house elves, not only does she call out her best friend for defending their enslavement, she establishes a student organization dedicated to demanding freedom and fair pay for house elves. The movement isn’t popular, but hey – Hermione isn’t here to make friends.

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What those poor misguided queers and Group 1 see are “opposite sexes” and privilege. Yes, there are L.U.G.s (Lesbian Until Graduation) who give up their queerdom to live a “normal” life of straight privilege. That is not me! The people of Group 1 who assume my hatred of my lovers expect me to be like all the breeder women who’d rather be in a miserable relationship than contentedly single. And they do so because they get privileges by being in relationships with normal men.
And I don’t even want a relationship!

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Dating a transguy, and coming to terms with the disconnect between my appearance and my true self, has given me new perspective on the contradictions that come with being queer in a society that presumes heterosexuality and rigid gender boundaries. Coming out to new friends seemed easier when I had girlfriends to bring around; now it takes a more complicated explanation. It’s a fine line to walk–being honest about my relationship without feeling like I’m treating my partner like a token or verging on TMI-territory with folks who want the finer details of surgeries and hormone effects. Ultimately, the trans-bomb is my partner’s to drop, but he’s open enough to encourage me to come out (again) to close family and friends and field their questions about trans life.

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I once tried and failed to explain what “queer” meant to someone. They countered each of my points by saying that “queer” was too broad to have any meaning. “So does IT”, I riposted with a deliberate jab at their profession. Besides, “queer” wasn’t even meant to be specific: it grew out of a community whose ideas and vocabulary are constantly in flux, and where personal fluidity is a norm.

The problem is, I’m having the same problem with the term “woman,” “girl,” “female,” or “femme”.

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Gelloa Solomon addresses Kathy Witterick and David Stocker, who have received much attention recently after their decision not to announce their youngest child’s sex yet.

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It’s time for an understanding of transgender experiences and identities to reach mainstream audiences. We’re looking at you, NY Times.

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I guess hearing about Tyra’s murder just reminded me that even just outside the walls of my college, there are still people that hate us enough to want kill us.

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Do you have memories of being a Tomboy or sneaking into your mother’s closet to try on her heels as a child? We often use these memories sometimes to think back on how “gay” we were growing up, or how we should have recognized the signs earlier, but we also need to recognize that a moment or a lifetime of stereotypical or non stereotypical behavior does not actually directly correspond to our sexual orientation.