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When I was a little girl I loved John Cougar (Mellencamp). I still do in fact. Even when I was (my stylist loves this bit) GOTH (yes, you can stop laughing now), even then, I secretly rocked out to the simplicity of JCM’s world. If you liked someone, you just hung out at ice cream shops in the summer, it wasn’t so hard. But JCM’s world didn’t have lesbians that suddenly find themselves in love with the barnyard after swimming with the fishes for the majority of their adult romantic life.

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This subject became the hot button topic last night among a wide circle of friends. My feelings on open relationships have fluctuated to the area of, “Perhaps it is necessary to have some needs met outside of a marriage, if ALL aren’t being met inside and the relationship is otherwise amazing,” to “Hmm, I don’t think I could handle the emotional and health risks of my partner or myself having an extracurricular partner.”

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This weekend something amazing happened – I started thinking about marrying my boyfriend. When, in the past, I considered the possibility of marriage equality in New York I, of course, expected to feel happy, but what I hadn’t anticipated was how it would change the way I feel about my relationship.

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I need to take a step away and prioritize some mending of my psyche and my life. Perhaps take a new driving class on how to handle the car during poor weather conditions.

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Two hours later, after I sent the cum shot he checked in to make sure it was all a joke. Indeed it was, and I’ll never sext again.

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You know those movies where the entire day seems choreographed to a fairytale box office soundtrack- every step synchronized, bending over to pluck a four-leaf clover, sun in the eyes so bright that your smile deflects its potency, a plot driven character about to hit the apex of their arch, and that one pivotal character waiting outside an apartment steps. Well, a few weeks ago that day was mine, and I should have suspected as much.

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Sure, I may need a vibrator when I make it home, but in the long run, will I gain more, by giving him less?

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How often do people settle in relationships because their current life scenario isn’t perfect their partner accepts it and rides it out in a way that someone else might not? Maybe work/life balance tends to fall more on the work end of the scale? Long weeks, unexpected trips, canceled dinners and rearranged lives. How often are people with individuals that love them dearly, but aren’t necessarily what the busier partner considers to be in their league, so to speak, all because they don’t have the time and energy to find said “better” person or step up and give what might be required in a different relationship?

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I’ve been trying to look at the positives to being single again and it occurred to me there was so much I wanted to actually do in a relationship that was missing from my previous. So in order to remain positive, I started a Dating Bucket list of things I’ve always wanted to do with someone I was dating, but for some reason or another never did.

This list is not about the sacrifices we’ve made and want to make up for; it’s about what we truly enjoy, the personal pleasures.

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For the past 7 months I’ve been buried in coats, scarves, hats, boots and gloves. Even with all that armor, walking outside was a debilitating ordeal. Each day, before opening my front door, I took a moment to brace myself for the anguish that waited on the other side. The biting wind. The snow. The ice. The darkness.