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I don’t consider myself to be overly PC or an extreme feminist. I am a little of both of those things, but mostly I am just educated, respectful and conscious of language of the power language wields.

I’m also not so forgiving of celebrities who use offensive language and follow with some sort of caveat about how their comments are ok because they support gay marriage ala The Millionaire Matchmaker’s Patti Stanger, or Kings of Leon’s quick decision to tell a gay man to get a manicure and buy a bra, followed with an “I’m sorry 4 anyone that misconstrued my comments as homophobic or misogynistic. I’m so not that kind of person” tweet.

Columns, Ideas, Not Your Average Prom Queen, Politics, Religion »

We’ve all been taught (in anecdote or in practice) that discussing religion, politics and baseball is a fast way to ruin friendships, or at least offend polite company. But, if this is true, then what do we talk about on a first date?

Favored sports teams might be a suitable topic that inspires playful rivalry (especially if one of you doesn’t really care about sports), but, to some, the religious and political beliefs of your potential mate are defining characteristics in the calculations of your potential for success.

Columns, Commentary, Ideas, Not Your Average Prom Queen, Television »

In our intensely divided country there is one thing that brings together the rich and the poor, the married and the love-seekers, the beautiful and the homely, those asking for help and those offering advice.

Reality television.

When MTV’s The Real World began its edited broadcast of 7 strangers residing together in a house in 1992, it was clear that their actions would leave the world of televised entertainment changed forever. The intimacy, the honesty and the grit were impossible to recreate in small screen fiction, and the viewer addiction was dangerous.

Civil Rights, Columns, Commentary, Ideas, Not Your Average Prom Queen »

When I’m not writing about LGBT issues, I’m writing about prehistoric worlds and the people and creatures that filled them. Although two seemingly different topics of interest, I find myself comparing bits and pieces of both subjects more often than one would imagine. I think part of the reason that I’m interested in issues of equality is because I’m interested in past and how environments, creatures and ideas change over time. How some things grow and change, and how others are left in the dust.

How has the treatment of women evolved?

Not Your Average Prom Queen, Personal Narratives, Sexuality »

For most of us, if we ever had to endure this devastating realization, it has been more than a decade since. For me? It happened 2 weeks ago; actually three times this summer.

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I turn 29 on the 29th of next month. I am not at all bothered by the fact that I am ending my 20s, or that I am swiftly approaching 30. Those things mean nothing to me besides the fact that I’m probably in the best shape of my life, I’m in a great relationship, and have a good job.

What does interest me is that fact that I was 19 when I had my first real girlfriend, so this year I am marking my 10 year anniversary of Queerdom.

Columns, Not Your Average Prom Queen, Personal Narratives »

The long grass of my family backyard concealed a forgotten tool, which I discovered with the shin of my right leg on a Sunday morning the summer that I was 11. I had gotten up early to swim in the pool and play in the yard (because some middle schoolers don’t have any rules) and I caught the tip of this sharp item with my foot and took a tumble. The extent of the injury was uncertain, but I panicked when I saw the blood streaming down my leg and ran into the house. I woke my mother who gave me an old towel and sat me down on the floor to take a look.

“So it’s you who’s been stealing my razors,” she said.

Civil Rights, Not Your Average Prom Queen »

The slippery slope logic of modern reasoning has provided ample cud for conservatives and the religious to chew on for decades. Marriage equality defenders have argued vehemently against the suggestion that obtaining marriage equality is the first step in the inevitable downfall of our countries moral fiber, but for some reason this “logic” always seems to come back up. The logic is as follows: The legalization of “gay marriage” destroys the “definition of marriage” as a union between one man and one woman, kicking open the door to allow the legalization of pedophilia, bestiality and polygamy.

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The area of Chicago’s Lakeview neighborhood nicknamed Boystown has evolved over time into a gay Mecca. It is a part of the city where men holding hands on the street is commonplace, and most businesses proudly display HRC or rainbow stickers in the windows. It is the home to the annual Chicago Gay Pride Parade. Gay bars and clubs are a part of the draw, but the neighborhood is also home to a beautiful LGBT community center that offers meeting space, programming and events. Unfortunately, for the same reasons that make Boystown a great place to visit, this gay watering hole is host to much more serious LGBT related issues.

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I’ve always wanted to be an intellectual.

I want to use that word because it conjures images of Paris in the 1920s, rather than words like nerd or geek which have the unending pejorative context of a 7th grade locker room confrontation.