Hi. Here’s some stuff about me: I am over-educated and under-paid. I was usually picked last in gym class. I used to want to be a rock star, then I settled for wanting to sleep one. Finally, I settled on wanting to sleep with guys who wanted to be rock stars. I came out at the age of 21, but I didn’t get introduced to gay culture until I was 27. I’m still asking myself, “So, that’s it?” I’m an ENTJ, and born on the Leo/Virgo cusp, the same day as River Phoenix. I define The New Gay thus… Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org Contact me at Michael@Thenewgay.net
Recent Posts by Michael:
I’ll just rip off the bandage: The New Gay is shutting down. It’s been a fun ride over the past four years. But the site grew so much and so quickly that our rag-tag group of volunteers couldn’t keep up with it. After wrangling with this issue for a while, we decided it was time to close up shop. So now, it’s on to other things.
Beat City, Events, Washington DC »
I’ve recently decided to do it bare. I know it’s dangerous, very risky, but I just can’t resist the temptation any longer. Bare and unprotected, it’s so much sexier. It slides in and out so much smoother. It simply feels the way it’s supposed to feel. I’m going bare and I’m never turning back.
You might find it shocking that I’m being so open and honest about such a personal and controversial opinion in a public forum. But I’m not taking about sex. I’m talking about my iPhone.
The word “fabulous” is horribly ill. It actually called me up the other day, lying on its death bed, begging and pleading for me to help raise awareness of its fragile state. Confused, I asked Fabulous what was wrong and was saddened but not shocked to learn that it’s being dreadfully overused. Fabulous is worn so thin that it hardly carries any meaning any longer, and that’s when a word begins to fade and eventually die. I told Fabulous I’d do my best to help, and what follows is my humble attempt.
I can’t believe I’m actually addressing you in a formal letter. Doing so validates both your existence as a pop icon and the ridiculousness of your name. I have to admit I’m not a fan of your music, but I do appreciate what you’re doing to raise the visibility of queer issues in mainstream culture. And while I take issue with the audacity that must motivate anyone proclaiming themselves any sort of icon, I freely admit that today’s gay culture could use some new leadership.
The title of this post is the punchline of perhaps the most cutting of all gay jokes: What are the five gay ages? Quite possibly it’s cutting since perhaps none of the five ages are appealing to the majority of the mainstream gay culture.
The thing is, likely no one fits any of these stereotypes to a tee. And even more likely, every gay man exhibits a few traits from each “age” no matter how old they are. But why do we feel the need to classify our entire community into more and more niche stereotypes? Is it to help us better understand each other or — more likely — to fragment our community even further? To transform more of “us” into “the other” so that we can feel superior in comparing ourselves to “them”?
Civil Rights »
I recently attended a town hall meeting hosted by a group who is working to reduce violent crime against DC’s LGBT community. According to statistics quoted by representatives of the group, DC has the highest rate of anti-queer hate crimes in the country. This group, Gays and Lesbians Opposing Violence (GLOV), was reformed in recent years after a notable increase in crimes agains the community, many of which were reported on and otherwise covered on this site. While I applaud this group’s current initiatives to increase dialog with the Metropolitan Police Department (MPD) and work for better prosecution of crimes against the community, the meeting left me with cold.
Our long lost contributor Robert wrote a brilliant post a few years ago about gay house parties. While many were upset at his vilification of flip flops on gay men (among other things) the accuracy with which he described the experience was uncanny. I’m going to offer up a few additional tips for attending gay house parties, since I just hosted one and I’m feeling inspired.
There’s been quite a bit of activity on here lately questioning the best course of action for achieving the rights of transgendered people, whether it’s in allegiance with the gay and lesbian community or separately. All of the discussion resulting from these two recent posts has got me wondering, what does “Dropping the T” mean really? How would it impact the different sections of the queer community? How could it be helpful or hurtful towards trans rights? I feel that many individuals commenting on recent posts have differing ideas of how such a disassociation would pan out, resulting in contention, confusion and anger.