The Mistress and I shot a glance over at each other (thankfully the slave was blindfolded) as if to say, “Okay, what’s next? What do I want to do? No, what do you want to do next?” There were 30 minutes left to the session. We were both having an uncreative moment and the session halted for an awkward minute or so while we decided what to do next to the submissive. That’s lame. You never want that to happen. A BDSM session should be a very seamless flow of torturous, tantalizing activities that lead from one to the next to the next until the session has reached a finale (yes, a finale of some sort in some context whether physical, mental, or both) and a conclusion for the day. It’s supposed to make the Dom/Domme seem effortlessly cool, powerful, and collected.

This fun game will help keep you and your partner cool during the sweltering heat of summer

When you’re wearing fetish clothing and you have your gear all over the place, everything is fine and good when you’re in the dungeon. That’s the natural place for all of that. But what about that whole important part about entering and leaving the dungeon? How does all of that work? Do you answer the door wearing a harness and chaps? Do you leave the hotel wearing kneehigh military boots, carrying your riding crop behind you? Practicalities are everything in BDSM whether or not they’re sexy to think about.

Don’t be victim to fantasies that are so suffocatingly structured that they could never truly exist outside your imagination. Create space for adjustment, improvement, surprise, and addition. Fantasies are very rarely diminished. What makes them so great is that they can be expanded, improved upon, grown wider, and multiplied with greater variety.

Master Aiden answers some of your burning BDSM questions.

You have to listen to something else aside from just moans and gasps. What’s on your BDSM playlist?
the next time you’re buckling on your leather harness and you’re partner is getting their jock strap and collar on, consider giving KMFDM a rest for the evening and give Grieg and Holst a shot instead. It’s entirely possible that you may never going back. I still love the synths and keyboards but, when it comes to BDSM sessions, I’d rather go with orchestras.

What happens when a couple decides to try on the collar and leather cap for themselves?

Master Aiden checks out Rihanna’s adventurous new music video.

You have to get the feel for it.

You don’t have to be rich to rule his world.