http://thenewgay.net/2011/09/words-words-words.html For Everyone Over the Rainbow Tue, 21 May 2013 18:27:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 http://thenewgay.net/2011/09/words-words-words.html#comment-50629 Matthew Wed, 21 Sep 2011 19:12:05 +0000 http://thenewgay.net/?p=67105#comment-50629 It is strange in undergraduate school Derrida, Foucault, Jung, Freud, Butler, Deleuze were all ways to help me think outside the binary. I was dating both women and men, and was not included in the gay clique and was also seen as other with straight guys. I continue to date both men and women. But this last year the lack of a strong sexual identity meant I have been vulnerable to attack, for a man very much so after the Bailey report of 2005. After these attacks from the outside brought me to depression I began to build identity just to have the strength to live my own life on my own terms. It is often said men are less bisexually fluid than women, I don 't believe a word of it. I think there are such huge social pressures that men have continual obstructions to their own bisexuality, under this pressure men create straight or gay identities and then live, or rather attempt to live by these binary catagories. There are similar rules for female bisexuality but the ramifications for breaking the binary are in some ways less severe as far as social stigma. I am getting over my depression as far as this it came because of the weird world of online dating which made me realize accutely not only social stigma of bisexuality in men, but those who I did date if they were straight or gay I had to had long drawn out discussions of my past dating life etc. rather than my hobbies, interests, career etc. But the moment I dated another bisexual it was all cool. It is interesting as an identity I am finding that bisexual people are those because of their rather mutable desires have the ability to see beyond binary systems easily where others cannot so easily. But as a reality and living in the world it can be really difficult because of the constant label game that is played. I am finding it really affirming dating a bisexual female again because her lable-less mentality really just let's it all go for the farce that it is It is strange in undergraduate school Derrida, Foucault, Jung, Freud, Butler, Deleuze were all ways to help me think outside the binary. I was dating both women and men, and was not included in the gay clique and was also seen as other with straight guys. I continue to date both men and women. But this last year the lack of a strong sexual identity meant I have been vulnerable to attack, for a man very much so after the Bailey report of 2005. After these attacks from the outside brought me to depression I began to build identity just to have the strength to live my own life on my own terms. It is often said men are less bisexually fluid than women, I don ‘t believe a word of it. I think there are such huge social pressures that men have continual obstructions to their own bisexuality, under this pressure men create straight or gay identities and then live, or rather attempt to live by these binary catagories. There are similar rules for female bisexuality but the ramifications for breaking the binary are in some ways less severe as far as social stigma. I am getting over my depression as far as this it came because of the weird world of online dating which made me realize accutely not only social stigma of bisexuality in men, but those who I did date if they were straight or gay I had to had long drawn out discussions of my past dating life etc. rather than my hobbies, interests, career etc. But the moment I dated another bisexual it was all cool. It is interesting as an identity I am finding that bisexual people are those because of their rather mutable desires have the ability to see beyond binary systems easily where others cannot so easily. But as a reality and living in the world it can be really difficult because of the constant label game that is played. I am finding it really affirming dating a bisexual female again because her lable-less mentality really just let’s it all go for the farce that it is

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