I feel like my relationship with my good friend, who is a gay guy, is somewhat like Chris and Catherine. From the relationships you’ve presented, it seems like they are the pair that most feel equal to one another. They don’t seem to be too self-aware of the fact that one roommate is a gay man and the other is a straight woman. They probably just naturally became close because they are so similar to one another.

I can relate to the need for relationships outside of the “gay world.” Even though I’ve never had a lot of gay friends, those same perceptions (back-stabbing, bitchy, untrustworthy) have been on my mind, as well.

The interesting point of my own life is that I truly enjoy all my heterosexual male friends. The women, whom are dear friends all the same, tend to remark to me that “if you were straight, I’d totally jump your bones,” and variations thereof. My male friends don not place the same hypothetical expectations on me. Instead, we get along because we have similar tastes in music, we’re musicians, we read similar books, like similar movies, act like idiots together; typical “heterosexual” male behaviors, at least insofar as I’ve ever understood the concept to be. That being said, this entire situation is probably due to my own personal tastes, personality, and presentation. In other words, I’ve been asked on more than one occasion, post-sex, if I’m “really gay.” Yes, but apparently “gay” is more than an orientation; “gay” is a lifestyle.

Whatever. Enough of my rambling! This is a stellar article which I thoroughly enjoyed reading!