Comments on: Ideas: Body Imaging http://thenewgay.net/2009/10/body-imaging.html For Everyone Over the Rainbow Wed, 08 Feb 2012 01:03:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Adam Stein http://thenewgay.net/2009/10/body-imaging.html#comment-53653 Adam Stein Sat, 17 Dec 2011 22:33:27 +0000 http://thenewgay.net/?p=15979#comment-53653 The thing is, also, for two women together or two men together, naked, having sex, or just cuddling in bed or whatever- it isnt necessarily *required* for there to be a "more feminine body" and a "more masculine body". Another option is to try to appreciate the shared femininity or shared masculinity of your bodies (i.e. the idea of BOTH people having masculine or feminine bodies, and that being a positive connection, sort of like masculinity squared or femininity squared or appreciating the distinctly masculine or feminine aspects of each others' bodies) or, from another angle, to focus on the non-gender related physical traits of each others' bodies that may be different, or even how the two unique bodies complement each other, aside from gender. The thing is, also, for two women together or two men together, naked, having sex, or just cuddling in bed or whatever- it isnt necessarily *required* for there to be a “more feminine body” and a “more masculine body”. Another option is to try to appreciate the shared femininity or shared masculinity of your bodies (i.e. the idea of BOTH people having masculine or feminine bodies, and that being a positive connection, sort of like masculinity squared or femininity squared or appreciating the distinctly masculine or feminine aspects of each others’ bodies) or, from another angle, to focus on the non-gender related physical traits of each others’ bodies that may be different, or even how the two unique bodies complement each other, aside from gender.

]]> By: Alex http://thenewgay.net/2009/10/body-imaging.html#comment-16157 Alex Thu, 15 Oct 2009 21:06:34 +0000 http://thenewgay.net/?p=15979#comment-16157 <i>I just worry that I’m promoting the norms of hetero culture by approaching my own body confidence through my “masculinizing” efforts.</i> I think your intent is the relevant quality here, not other people's perception. Plenty of people have accused butch/femme couples and trans folk of "promoting the norms", but I think most queer people realise that position is crap. You are obviously conscious of what your doing, and I think that awareness is the key difference between doing something that feels right to you because it is right for you (or might be right for you), and doing something because it seems to be the culturally defined path of least resistance. =) I just worry that I’m promoting the norms of hetero culture by approaching my own body confidence through my “masculinizing” efforts.

I think your intent is the relevant quality here, not other people’s perception. Plenty of people have accused butch/femme couples and trans folk of “promoting the norms”, but I think most queer people realise that position is crap. You are obviously conscious of what your doing, and I think that awareness is the key difference between doing something that feels right to you because it is right for you (or might be right for you), and doing something because it seems to be the culturally defined path of least resistance. =)

]]> By: Jack http://thenewgay.net/2009/10/body-imaging.html#comment-16124 Jack Wed, 14 Oct 2009 17:30:00 +0000 http://thenewgay.net/?p=15979#comment-16124 Great column, MC :) Welcome to TNG! Great column, MC :) Welcome to TNG!

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