Comments on: The Adventures of the Boi Wonder: Fear and Humoring http://thenewgay.net/2009/08/fear-and-humoring.html For Everyone Over the Rainbow Fri, 25 May 2012 18:04:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Alex http://thenewgay.net/2009/08/fear-and-humoring.html#comment-14108 Alex Wed, 19 Aug 2009 17:52:22 +0000 http://thenewgay.net/?p=13011#comment-14108 "[do]they really see me as male[?]" If you've come out as recently as it sounds (3 months? Less?) the probable answer is "no". But there are other options than dismissing that as "humoring" you. Gender is, for most people, an immutable quality. Not just in concept, but also in experience - even trans folk might only have a handful of acquaintances that they knew both before and after they (the acquaintances) identified as trans. Hopefully, if they're real friends, they're trying to respect you, at least until the point that they *do* see you as male. It took you, what? 18 years? to get to this point? Give them time =) “[do]they really see me as male[?]” If you’ve come out as recently as it sounds (3 months? Less?) the probable answer is “no”. But there are other options than dismissing that as “humoring” you.

Gender is, for most people, an immutable quality. Not just in concept, but also in experience – even trans folk might only have a handful of acquaintances that they knew both before and after they (the acquaintances) identified as trans.

Hopefully, if they’re real friends, they’re trying to respect you, at least until the point that they *do* see you as male. It took you, what? 18 years? to get to this point? Give them time =)

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