This post was submitted by Allison

Some of TNG’s most controversial articles have been about bisexuality within the gay community. We are able to acknowledge the complexities of sexuality and relationships, however we still have our own personal reactions to bisexuality that often differ from our intellectual understandings. One thing we can agree on is the double standard of bisexuality between men and women; It seems harder for main stream society to accept male bisexuality because of the hypocrisies within the gay community juxtaposed with our own views of femininity and masculinity. It’s hard to make sense of something that…makes no “sense.” The language for new sexualities is still being created, and often times, we are at a loss for words.

I am someone who is comfortable living in ambiguity. However, as many of TNG readers and writers have experienced, this makes outsiders uncomfortable. We acknowledge the importance of enlightening others, rather than sitting back bitterly awaiting for mutual respect. This is why I have decided to feature BiTheWay for Blog of the Week. It is completely dedicated to creating new dialogues and new ways of approaching discussions about male bisexuality. The anonymous founder of the blog dispels common myths used when speaking of bi sexuality such as “bi-curious” or “confused” or “insecure;” He is one of the first bloggers to write with such a grounded approach to this topic, and the only blog I have seen to successfully reach out to a global queer community.

BiTheWay also explores bisexuality within the political sphere. It gives readers tools on how to approach ambiguity within the gay community and shows us that we should not define others to selfishly satisfy our own curiosities. Below is Bi The Way’s mission as described by its founder:

I’m male, 29, and I’m bisexual. Now that’s not how I’d normally introduce myself, because my sexuality is not the cornerstone of my self-identity. However, for the purposes of this blog its a fitting place to start, because this web site is about exploring male sexuality, in particular male bisexuality.

Bisexuality is a topic that remains largely taboo for a lot of men, despite the fact that there are millions of men out there who find themselves attracted to both men and women. There is a lot of pressure, particularly on young men to either identify themselves as straight or gay, and whilst peer pressure makes it hard to come out as gay, its even more difficult to come out as bisexual as there is no clear peer group where you can turn to support.

So I decided to write this blog for several reasons: The first is to explore my own sexuality. The second is to let others who are struggling with their sexual identity know that they are not alone and there are others out there like them. And finally to educate others and dispel a few myths about bisexuals and bisexuality.

There is a 4th supplemental reason and that is that I was curious to see how easy it was to set-up WordPress on a Windows platform, thanks to Nuclear Internet it was an absolute breeze.

Its also worth pointing out that this is a blog about sexuality not sex, so you won’t find the sordid details of my love life plastered across the world wide web or any sexually explicit images here. So please don’t ask. (Well OK – ask, I’ll be flattered, but you won’t get anything.) That said if you do have any suggestions for the site or questions you’d like to ask please post a comment, this is an interactive web site and your contributions are as important as my own. You can also write to me by email: editor[at]bitheway[dot]co[dot]uk.

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