Rants: I Love Grey Hair
TNG co-founder Zack spent some time over Valentines Day reevaluating what inconsequential things he loves. All this week he will tell you what he came up with. Check in tomorrow for “Things I Love” pt. 4.
There’s a thin line between turn-on and fetish. I’m pretty certain that my all-abiding love of young guys with grey hair falls firmly on the side of turn-on. I don’t want to eat silver-toned razor clippings or play “hide the bedpan” at the closest retirement home. However, about as long as I’ve had access to sex I’ve found guys with salt and pepper locks (not Salt N’ Pepa lox, unfortunately) to be the hottest things since sliced Butt Magazines. It’s not a daddy issue or some weird erotic reaction to Lois Lowry’s “The Giver.” It’s just a confession of my membership in the too-small “Silver Chasers” club.
I remember my awakening. My college hosted an event called “Freshman Sing” where the new class earns the respect of the older kids by singing a bunch of Alma Mater songs to the entire student body. Most of the upperclassmen just go to see who’s cute. I was no exception. Three days into my sophomore year I was watching the whole class of ’07 file by when someone caught my eye. He was of my standard type — tall, skinny, horn-rimmed glasses —but was sporting a full mane of grey hair. He was 18. We did something just under dating, on and off, for the next three years. No matter if we were making out at a given point of time, or even acknowledging each other in public, I always got a thrill at having landed the guy with grey hair.
This was a year after I made an ass of myself in front of Mo Rocca following a speaking engagement at my college, and a year before I saw him on the street in New York and barked “Oh hi there!” as if he was a long lost best friend. Silverfoxes do that to me.
Flash forward four years from that. Guess what my boyfriend has? Yup, the works. Silver in this hair. Silver in his beard. I love it. Once the guy who cuts our hair (yeah, we get our hair cut together. What of it?) suggested a dye-job and I almost assaulted him with his own clippers. It’s just too important to me. It would be like telling a hard-core breast man that his girlfriend should have a reduction. Or informing an exclusive top that his boyfriend was having something called a “corking surgery” which is only legal in Scandinavia. It’s unacceptable.
Of course I do have to field a fair share of insensitive questions. No, my boyfriend doesn’t have white nose, chest or ball hair. No, I don’t spend inordinate amounts of time on Lemon Party. (Link NSFW.) No, I don’t have any kind of submission, leather or muscle fetishes. I just really like grey hair.
What about you, TNG readers? Any weird turn-ons that everyone else gives you shit for?
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i love silverfoxes too. i also love fred perrys in an almost fetishy way, so that photo’s just fine by me.
i’m also often really attracted to guys with casts. especially arm casts, but legs as well. people seem to think it’s incredibly weird.
as a 20-something with a growing amount of grey hair around my temples, i wholeheartedly endorse this sentiment. also, i just got very confused as to whether i should spell it “grey” or “gray.” it turns out they’re both right, but “grey” is more popular over in britain.
big fan of gray here. we need to have a party just for grays and their admirers. i never see nearly enough of them anywhere.
I love guys with grey hair. I also have a huge thing for guys with glasses.
yes – we do love Anderson Cooper! The other day I saw this hot black guy (str8) who had VERY bow legs – and I thought, “OMFG! A new turn-on to add to my love of long hair and Roman noses!”
Add me to the gray hair fans. What are fred perrys?
his shirt, that’s a fred perry. it’s kind of a skinhead thing, which is another one of my sexual fixations that other people think are weird. people who aren’t skinheads wear fred perry of course, me for instance, but those polo shirts do make up part of the skinhead uniform.
The first boyfriend I ever really officially had was 22 when I was 19 and he was already starting to gray! haha. It wasn’t attractive of course, but honestly it didn’t bug me as bad as I though it would.
Flutterbye, “it wasn’t attractive of course?” I think you’re missing the point of this article.
How about gals with gray hair? I started graying at about 23, and while its really just silver whispys here and there, and the way i cut or part my hair hides or excentuates it, I spend a lot of time hoping that my girlfriend thinks its sexy. because im a bit of a nerd, i somehow hope that my glasses and gray hair make me look a little like a hot librarian than just like im getting old. personally, i like it on myself.
I am 45 yr old gay man. I’m told I’m handsome on a daily basis. I am elergic to hair dye.
I can however use henna, I am so torn on a daily basis.
Thoughts???
jim, don’t die your hair. Grey hair is the best.
My hair is just about white at the temples. Many people have told me how sexy it is.
My turn-on for which everyone else gives me shit isn’t physical; instead, it’s that I like well educated men. Many orthodox gay men regard this preference as equivalent to blasphemy against the Holy Ghost.
Am a writer/Actor and some times have to die my grey hair, but when I don’t many of my gay friends love my silver tempils, so what do you think,mail me diorryan@yahoo.co.uk
ohhhh! in a world that is serpassing its self with techknolagie, do forgive my spelling, who would like to start a comune with me and get back to the basics of living of the land, ??? yes the leaps we have made this past 40yrs and advances in medical treatment is good but lets only ebrace the benifits that comes with techknolage, for the good and slig the bits we dont really need and make us lazy, ok sola pannels good, robot not so good, weed out the needless advances and keep only the esentials,I have a place in Ireland with land that needs fixing, does anyone who has a few Dollers, Euros, or qid, fancie it, I know I do, if your serious and want a peacefull life with out to much out side infloinces, rhen mail me @ diorryan@yahoo.co.uk again sorry for spelling as I am dislexic, and spell checker is not an option, happy new year to you all.
Ryan Dior
Writer/Actor
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