Comments on: Commentary: Seeking Gay Date: Just Don’t Tell Anyone

By: pepa

pepa — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 02:30:07 +0000

hope you had a great time with your date..

i wouldn’t suggest Craiglist for looking for decent date.. Don’t give up, you will find your perfect date online or maybe not online..

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 21:05:00 +0000

As you say, you are still new to DC – don’t you realize you don’t have senators? You gave them up when you crossed the Potomac. You’re lucky ‘yours’ reponded to you – some won’t if you aren’t using an in-state address.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 06:48:00 +0000

I suspect that when all the self-hating gay republicans leave town, the scene will improve immensely. Good luck! Those of us who remember D.C. during the last Democrat administration can tell you, things are only going to get better for you.

By: Clearlyhere

Clearlyhere — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 16:17:00 +0000

I have to agree with the rest of the respondents. Craig’s List is trashy. Looking for a date online, you can’t do worse than Craig’s List. M4M means Man looking for Man Ass.

I suspect that people are more likely to be closeted when cruising Craig’s List rather than Match or Gay.com. Hope that you had a good inauguration.

By: BlueSeqPerl

BlueSeqPerl — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 22:05:00 +0000

David,

Part of the problem with your Craigslist post is you hint at sex. Given the majority of Craigslist readership of M4M are looking for man-snatch, they zeroed in on your hint of sex.

I have successfully got a legit date on Craigslist's M4M by asking for a date only. I leave the sex part out of it. You will know if sex might be in the picture depending on you and your date's chemistry on the date.

Don't give up. There are good guys out there.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 17 Jan 2009 15:06:00 +0000

craigslist is full of weirdos looking to hook up NOW!

but every now and then you find interesting people. ive been in a 8-month relationship with a guy i met at 3 AM on craigslist…

By: Aris

Aris — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 21:49:00 +0000

Most cities' CL are a little on the frightening side. Here in Seattle we have:

- Scams
- Pedofiles
- People accusing posters of being pedophiles, or of having HIV

Oddly enough, my friends here claim it's successful. One of my friends has been in a 5 month long relationship from a m4m hookup, so you never know.

By: officesupplygeek

officesupplygeek — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 21:12:00 +0000

I think part of your problem might be where you’re looking. DC’s craigslist is a little on the frightening side (don’t even get me started on the gratuitous use of CAPS LOCK). I can’t speak for M4M, but the majority of posts in W4W are from those solely looking to score a piece or who are searching for a “discreet” relationship (not to mention the bicurious, the couples, and the men posing as women). CL affords anonymity, so it’s the perfect place for closet-queers to go to meet people. That said, plenty of nice, cool people still cruise CL (obviously I’m including myself in this category), so it doesn’t hurt to try. Best of luck!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 19:56:00 +0000

David, sadly part of being “out” is learning most other people are damaged, even those we think might be ok. A big part of gay culture today draws these people.

Persevere my friend. There are great guys out there in unlikely places.