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16 December 2008, 2:00 pm 10 Comments

Civil Rights: Marriage Vs. Civil Union: Let Churches Handle Marriage?


Frank K. Flinn, Ph.D., adjunct professor of religious studies in Arts & Sciences at Washington University in St. Louis (and author of The Encyclopedia of Catholicism) has frequently appeared as an expert in court cases involving church and state issues. He believes he has an answer to our current marriage debate: give marriage to the churches, but have the federal law only recognize civil unions. This way, under the umbrella of “civil unions,” people (gay and straight) can create whatever social grouping they want and receive the federal benefits provided by the government as a carrot for social cohesion. If people want to add the appellation of “marriage,” they can go to their church and receive it, but only if their particular church allows it under the bylaws of their denomination. Churches get to keep their special designation and sanctify it further by wielding greater control over those to whom it chooses to extend this benefit, while everyone else who doesn’t choose a church wedding is made equal under civil unions. If gay and straight people want to supersize their federal union with a religious name, they can always go to their respective churches for the added credentials (Can I haz fries with my patriarchal joy-hemorrhaging institution?).

I’ve heard this idea before, and I think Flynn’s idea is an OK compromise, considering that we sodomites are dealing with modern people who recognize the triumph of science and reason yet nevertheless maintain belief in a wish-granting space god who forgives their sins and has a plan for them that involves harps and cloud hopping. However, my hunch is that the evangelicals wouldn’t be satisfied with anything less than an established second class citizenship for gay people, since that’s the best society will allow for, now that lynching is frowned upon. The argument from Flynn is below the fold, and worth reading.



In November, citizens in the State of California passed Proposition 8 upholding the idea that marriage is defined as and limited to the union of one man with one woman. This vote has given encouragement to many in other states who want to pass similar legislation. The United States is about to enter upon a period of legal upheaval on the question of marriage in the civil law. Our problem is that we as a nation have failed to distinguish clearly between marriage and civil unions.

There is a simple solution to our problem. The churches are clamoring for the right to rule over the meaning and conditions of marriage. I recommend that we give marriage to them. Marriage then belongs to the realm of theology. This situation necessitates that the state completely withdraw from defining and legislating what marriage means and leaves that task to religion. Conversely, religion must also withdraw from telling the state what is a civil union.

The state’s primary interest is in how people live together in peace and harmony. Provided that the contracts among individuals conform to general law, the state has no other interest than in maintaining the terms of the contract. People can form corporations, cooperatives or collectives, joint living arrangements, or any other kind of social grouping. What they need from the civil authority is a license that commits them to the terms of the contract. If some people then want to get “married” in the religious sense, they are free to do so extra-legally according to their particular religious tradition’s definition of marriage.

The civil state is not the arbiter of theological conflicts. As Justice Douglas said so eloquently in U.S. v. Ballard (1944), “Heresy trials are foreign to our Constitution.” That the definition of marriage as a union between one man and one woman is a theological claim, and has always been a theological claim, is clearly demonstrated by the fact that polygamy has been approved in other religious traditions for millennia, such as Islam, African traditional religion, and South American tribal religion. Religious groups asking the state to determine the definition of marriage are inviting the state to settle theological disputes, that is, to conduct heresy trials.

The U.S. Constitution says absolutely nothing about marriage or the definition of marriage. However, marriage sneaked into the backdoor as a constitutional issue through the notorious case of Reynolds v. U. S. (1878). Basing itself on a U.S. Territorial Statute (Revised Statutes 5352) outlawing bigamy, the court stated that the Mormon polygamist George Reynolds could not use the defense of religious duty in warding off charges of bigamy. Reynolds implicitly defined marriage as the union of one man and one woman.

I believe that Reynolds v. U.S. was wrongly decided. First, marriage is simply not a Constitutional matter. Second, certain religious segments of the U.S. population have monopolized the term “marriage” and have endowed it with a restrictive theological bias. As a result marriage is no longer a concept defining a civil institution but a theological status being fought over not only between religions but also between denominations within religions. Third, the state’s interest is solely in lawfulness along with civil harmony and stability. The internal form of civil unions is beyond the interest or the competence of the state, most especially when disputes about the nature and conditions of “marriage” entangle the state in settling theological arguments. The state’s function is simply to insure that civil unions outwardly conform to the rule of law.

The political executive branch in the United States is not a pope with his curia. Legislatures are not church synods or councils. Courts are not ecclesiastical rotas. Judges are not the arbiters of what is valid or invalid before God, nor are they arbiters of what is legal or illegal before the Supreme Being. They are arbiters of what is lawful before the Constitution. The U.S. Constitution is not unalterable sacred scripture but a code of law handed on to us not by prophets or divinely-inspired lawgivers but by our Founding Fathers who foresaw that the law might need amendment from time to time.

My solution is simple: churches, synagogues, mosques, etc., are free to arbitrate “marriage” for their respective denominations, including monogamy, polygamy or same-sex marriage. This arbitration however is beyond the realm of the legal. Marriages are the business of the church; civil unions are the business of the state. The law should become blind to the theologically laden term “marriage.”


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10 Comments »

  • Shea said:

    Bravo! I totally agree with the logic that Flinn suggests. BUT…I feel like we need to add another layer: Semantics.

    The term “civil union” leaves a yucky residue in my mouth. I think that’s because it has been offered as a consolation from those that get to keep the golden word “marriage.”

    I propose (no pun intended) that we develop new vocabulary that forces all people to viscerally understand the new permissions and definitions of law.

    I don’t have suggestions for the new words. But the union that EVERYONE (straight, gay, bi, whatever) applies for from the Federal government gets a new name. And a pairing that is blessed by an imam, pastor, Wiccan priestess, rabbi, etc., gets a new name.

    No one gets “marriage.” No one gets “civil unions.” They become obsolete terms that conjure up the olden days of yore when people were ignorant and unenlightened.

  • Michael said:

    Great point, Shea. I agree with you. Maybe we can dig some word out of a foreign language, or from latin or somewhere that conveys the union without all the baggage that “marriage” and “civil union” have associated with them.

  • Clearlyhere said:

    I like this idea in theory. Again, making this practice would be extremely difficult.

    Great points.

  • Anonymous said:

    The civil state is not the arbiter of theological conflicts.

    Many of us have known all of this for a very long time. Clamoring for marriage while it is under the control of religious institutions is pointless. It is the state, not the church, that defines marriage.

    I don’t know why we can’t use the European model: “married” at City Hall (i.e. by the state), optional religious ceremony (at a church). Thereby putting “the church” in its proper place: on the side.

  • Jolly said:

    @ Shea: Really good point – I think starting over semantically is best.

    Even if “marriages” and “civil unions” are the same legally, right now “marriages” are viewed as superior to civil unions in the minds of Americans. It’s a variation on the “separate but equal is inherently unequal” argument, I guess.

  • Nicky said:

    Instead of seeing government license couples under a new brand name, I’d rather see society recognize all the important caring / interdependent relationships that people really have. Why should licensed couples be at the top of a hierarchy of relationships? Let’s pay taxes and get health insurance as individuals, bequeath our belongings to anyone, have enforcable responsibilities for our dependents, and leave branding out of it entirely.

  • Anonymous said:

    Quite frankly, this is just never going to happen. Public support for stripping the away the name of “marriage” from heterosexual relationships would hover right around .0001%, approximately equal to the population percentage of far-left academics who sit around dreaming up this sort of stuff.

  • Anonymous said:

    I agree with the logic but not with his wording. How about we do like other countries and call them “Civil Marriage” and “Religious Marriage.” There’s no need to make up a new word.

  • Nathan said:

    “Public support for stripping the away the name of “marriage” from heterosexual relationships would hover right around .0001%, approximately equal to the population percentage of far-left academics who sit around dreaming up this sort of stuff.”

    This is about right. As a hypothetical outcome, I don’t have a major problem with it, but I’m just baffled by people who think that “civil unions for everyone” is politically more achievable than actual same-sex marriage.

    It’s always easier to just move a minority forwards than to move a majority backwards as well. And the latter is how the vast majority of Americans would perceive this solution, even if the only change is a semantic one.

  • Michael said:

    Check out this video from NYTimes Bloggingheads on this very topic:

    http://washingtonblade.com/blog/index.cfm?blog_id=23020

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