Comments on: Sexuality: Innocent Until Proven Guilty? http://thenewgay.net/2008/10/innocent-until-proven-guilty.html For Everyone Over the Rainbow Fri, 25 May 2012 01:14:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Daniel http://thenewgay.net/2008/10/innocent-until-proven-guilty.html#comment-6757 Daniel Mon, 06 Oct 2008 18:43:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/10/06/innocent-until-proven-guilty/#comment-6757 I don't think that one can gets to the point in society where 'heterosexual' is not the default option without the time we live in now, when people in many walks of life come out, continuously, so that the default option is no longer valid. <br/><br/>" In this 21st century America, it’s possible not to be out in the old-fashioned sense, but to still be gay, out and proud."<br/><br/>I certainly hope so we get there one day, but we are at least 10 years from that. In a society where we still have to struggle for our rights, I believe there is power still to the act of coming out. And coming out does not have to be a loud, bizarre act. If, next time at work someone starts talking about their weekend, and then you chime in that you and your boyfriend (or girlfriend) took it easy and just saw a movie, well, that's coming out. No need to have a Pride parade march through the lobby.<br/><br/>Now, in the specific case of the outing debate, well, I think we can agree that there is a difference between outing someone because society in general wants everybody to fit into a neat box and have an easily-read tag attached, and outing as a political act. <br/><br/>Yes, coming out is a personal journey that everyone undertakes at their own speed, and outing a private individual in the case is just unnecessary. The real debate is, what about outing someone in a position of power, whether elected or not? I don’t think that one can gets to the point in society where ‘heterosexual’ is not the default option without the time we live in now, when people in many walks of life come out, continuously, so that the default option is no longer valid.

” In this 21st century America, it’s possible not to be out in the old-fashioned sense, but to still be gay, out and proud.”

I certainly hope so we get there one day, but we are at least 10 years from that. In a society where we still have to struggle for our rights, I believe there is power still to the act of coming out. And coming out does not have to be a loud, bizarre act. If, next time at work someone starts talking about their weekend, and then you chime in that you and your boyfriend (or girlfriend) took it easy and just saw a movie, well, that’s coming out. No need to have a Pride parade march through the lobby.

Now, in the specific case of the outing debate, well, I think we can agree that there is a difference between outing someone because society in general wants everybody to fit into a neat box and have an easily-read tag attached, and outing as a political act.

Yes, coming out is a personal journey that everyone undertakes at their own speed, and outing a private individual in the case is just unnecessary. The real debate is, what about outing someone in a position of power, whether elected or not?

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]]> By: clearlyhere http://thenewgay.net/2008/10/innocent-until-proven-guilty.html#comment-6755 clearlyhere Mon, 06 Oct 2008 16:40:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/10/06/innocent-until-proven-guilty/#comment-6755 I recently went out with a bunch of guys from the Opera chorus and we had to have the what are you question. There was one new guy who was an enigma, but I had made enough comments that I didn't think I needed to proclaim my sexuality. I recently went out with a bunch of guys from the Opera chorus and we had to have the what are you question. There was one new guy who was an enigma, but I had made enough comments that I didn’t think I needed to proclaim my sexuality.

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