Comments on: Health: Fatitude: Rejecting the Platitudes http://thenewgay.net/2008/08/fatitude-rejecting-platitudes.html For Everyone Over the Rainbow Thu, 24 May 2012 04:53:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Meaghan http://thenewgay.net/2008/08/fatitude-rejecting-platitudes.html#comment-4635 Meaghan Tue, 12 Aug 2008 23:18:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/08/11/fatitude-rejecting-the-platitudes/#comment-4635 Michael -<br/><br/>I think what I've delineated here is that my body, or anyone's body, is nobody's business but my own. And while I appreciate concern because I know the place from within a person from which it is derived, I think that it's rather presumptuous of anyone to think that I'm being consciously careless. Please, don't worry about it.<br/><br/>As you can attest "since high school" I've always been fat. And while you might consider this a health issue, I do not and my physician does not. That sort of personal disclosure is not always something a person can manage, however, and anonymous "concern" does not lesson the hurt and pain a comment can cause. This does not even take into consideration the innumerable fat people on this earth who don't have hurt and pain about their fatness, but simply a disinterest in hearing from anyone judgments placed against their own personal prerogatives.<br/><br/>Everything I do, positive or negative, is with my own personal health in mind. And if you believe me, which I should hope that you do because I'm actually writing it here, then there is no reason for us to ever discuss my fatness unless <b>I</b> bring it up. I am not fat because I feel it is a political statement. Michael -

I think what I’ve delineated here is that my body, or anyone’s body, is nobody’s business but my own. And while I appreciate concern because I know the place from within a person from which it is derived, I think that it’s rather presumptuous of anyone to think that I’m being consciously careless. Please, don’t worry about it.

As you can attest “since high school” I’ve always been fat. And while you might consider this a health issue, I do not and my physician does not. That sort of personal disclosure is not always something a person can manage, however, and anonymous “concern” does not lesson the hurt and pain a comment can cause. This does not even take into consideration the innumerable fat people on this earth who don’t have hurt and pain about their fatness, but simply a disinterest in hearing from anyone judgments placed against their own personal prerogatives.

Everything I do, positive or negative, is with my own personal health in mind. And if you believe me, which I should hope that you do because I’m actually writing it here, then there is no reason for us to ever discuss my fatness unless I bring it up. I am not fat because I feel it is a political statement.

]]> By: Michael Cole http://thenewgay.net/2008/08/fatitude-rejecting-platitudes.html#comment-4634 Michael Cole Tue, 12 Aug 2008 20:37:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/08/11/fatitude-rejecting-the-platitudes/#comment-4634 Hello Meaghan! Michael Cole here. I've appreciated your unique spirit since we were in high school, and I'm glad you've still got it. You're right to call people on their unwelcome, unhelpful judgments. But what about concern? Fat may be natural and no one else's business, but as an old friend, I worry about its impact on your health.<br/><br/>Gay men may be obsessed with fitness, and I admit I enjoy the occasional compliment, but in the end I work-out for myself and my health.<br/><br/>I hope you make your choices for yourself, and not as a response to others. Hello Meaghan! Michael Cole here. I’ve appreciated your unique spirit since we were in high school, and I’m glad you’ve still got it. You’re right to call people on their unwelcome, unhelpful judgments. But what about concern? Fat may be natural and no one else’s business, but as an old friend, I worry about its impact on your health.

Gay men may be obsessed with fitness, and I admit I enjoy the occasional compliment, but in the end I work-out for myself and my health.

I hope you make your choices for yourself, and not as a response to others.

]]> By: Meaghan http://thenewgay.net/2008/08/fatitude-rejecting-platitudes.html#comment-4633 Meaghan Mon, 11 Aug 2008 19:03:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/08/11/fatitude-rejecting-the-platitudes/#comment-4633 Ikobi -- This is one of the most concise answers to your request that I elaborate on my comment. <br/><br/><a HREF="http://kateharding.net/but-dont-you-realize-fat-is-unhealthy/" REL="nofollow">Don't you Realize Fat is Unhealthy"></a> Ikobi — This is one of the most concise answers to your request that I elaborate on my comment.

Don't you Realize Fat is Unhealthy">

]]> By: ikobi http://thenewgay.net/2008/08/fatitude-rejecting-platitudes.html#comment-4632 ikobi Mon, 11 Aug 2008 18:18:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/08/11/fatitude-rejecting-the-platitudes/#comment-4632 "Fat is more than just about health and exercise."<br/><br/>Can you elaborate on this sentence? “Fat is more than just about health and exercise.”

Can you elaborate on this sentence?

]]> By: Jenny Miller http://thenewgay.net/2008/08/fatitude-rejecting-platitudes.html#comment-4631 Jenny Miller Mon, 11 Aug 2008 17:08:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/08/11/fatitude-rejecting-the-platitudes/#comment-4631 Nice post, Meaghan. Nice post, Meaghan.

]]> By: Craig http://thenewgay.net/2008/08/fatitude-rejecting-platitudes.html#comment-4630 Craig Mon, 11 Aug 2008 16:44:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/08/11/fatitude-rejecting-the-platitudes/#comment-4630 This is an issue close to my heart. One the one hand, a lot of members of my family have passed from diabetes. At the same time, I've felt the harsh glare of the gay male world due to weight gain (curse you, prednisone!) The piece was as coherent as it needed to be. This is an issue close to my heart. One the one hand, a lot of members of my family have passed from diabetes. At the same time, I’ve felt the harsh glare of the gay male world due to weight gain (curse you, prednisone!) The piece was as coherent as it needed to be.

]]> By: Kris http://thenewgay.net/2008/08/fatitude-rejecting-platitudes.html#comment-4629 Kris Mon, 11 Aug 2008 16:18:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/08/11/fatitude-rejecting-the-platitudes/#comment-4629 Wow. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! Speaking as a fat woman, we need more people like you who proudly declare "I'm fat, and if it's a problem, it is MY problem and not yours!" Wow. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! Speaking as a fat woman, we need more people like you who proudly declare “I’m fat, and if it’s a problem, it is MY problem and not yours!”

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