Comments on: Rants: Battered Wife Syndrome

By: Mahmúd

Mahmúd — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 14:58:00 +0000

“We’ve all heard examples of this logic, and it’s bullshit. If we don’t expect and demand equal treatment, we won’t get it. It’s that simple”
You are just great! That’s exactly what I’m thinking of :)

By: Daniel

Daniel — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 19:13:00 +0000

Sorry, that was meant to be:

“I have hetero friends that are just as bothered by excessive PDA by other hetero couples.”

By: Daniel

Daniel — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 19:12:00 +0000

Well, it all depends on context. I wouldn't make out with my bf if I was walking by southeast, or any obviously shady sort of place. And I don't think that speaks ill of me being comfortable with my gayness, just common sense.

But on U street? Any heckle would be met with a hearty 'fuck off, asshole!'

The PDA issue is one that transcends sexual orientation. I have hetero friends that are just as bothered by excessive PDA. And then you gotta get on the business of defining 'excessive'. Is a kiss in public ok? I think so. Foreplay? Not so much. Unless you are by P street beach, of course.

By: Parker

Parker — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 14:30:00 +0000

carl – being pompous and a prick is probably worse than both poor orthography and PDA. get a life. it’s a blog.

By: Carl

Carl — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 04:05:00 +0000

You can pick your battles, but lots of people resign themselves to not picking any at all, blowing over at the slightest breeze. The words people pick often say more than how they are strung together, like semaphores to the watchmen.

Parker – I’m sure Margaret Loving wouldn’t think much of your answer, and thank goodness for all of us she didn’t. Poor orthography is far more obnoxious than PDA.

By: Parker

Parker — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 17:51:00 +0000

jenny – i just think that some people are put off by it. i don’t need to see strangers sucking face at a bar or starbucks or the metro. it’s the equiv to me of talking on your cell phone all over the place or grunting at the gym. it’s obnoxious.

By: Jenny Miller

Jenny Miller — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 16:55:00 +0000

I don’t understand why showing affection is ever gross. Is it so awful to see people who love each other? I’m not tryin to psychoanalyze anyone here, but I don’t get it.

By: Jenny Miller

Jenny Miller — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 16:55:00 +0000

I don’t understand why showing affection is ever gross. Is it so awful to see people who love each other? I’m not tryin to psychoanalyze anyone here, but I don’t get it.

By: Parker

Parker — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 16:45:00 +0000

there are also times and places for asserting yourself, in my view. making out or holding hands with your bf in some parts of this city and others just invites problems, and not just verbal attacks. is being out and proud worth getting your ass beat? and i just think couples making out in public is gross and rude anyway regardless of who they are.

By: Chris

Chris — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 15:14:00 +0000

Agreed. This is why I get pissed when people get mad at me for mentioning my boyfriend on this site. Do I mention him in every post? No. Should I have to defend myself any time I do mention him? Also no. Same goes for anyone, anywhere, mentioning the person they love, like, or sleep with.

Sometimes it’s not worth the fight, true. And you can’t be a hero all the time. But we are worsening our own situation if we cut down, blame, or don’t support other people who freely express their sexuality. Most feminists acknowledge that women are often the strongest policers of gender norms; the same goes for any oppressed group. If we want full acceptance, we all need to stop accepting and policing the boundaries that shut us in.