Thanks for your comment. We’ve had some trans discussions on the site here before and definitely want to create a safe space for transfolk to share their ideas and experiences. I guess we, the site founders, are still looking for more education on how to be more trans-inclusive.

also, wanted to say I am super interested in learning of performances going on and dance things or crazy theater, or even events like classes and workshops, cuz im tryna get my performanceartthing on

The one point that I have to make about TNG is that it represents an idea, a goal. Let it be a potential. New gays aren’t born overnight…

Yay for new gays!

I appreciate your desire for a the badly needed attitude adjustment in the gay community. If you’re in DC, “fuhgettabutit”, as they say in NYC.

You will find that sort of place in NYC believe it or not. Albeit, probably not everywhere in NYC, but mostly.

DC is cliquish historically, that’s one of the reasons why I left.

This site is just another clique. I rarely come to this site, haven’t been here is a long while, but nothing is changed. Same tired superior ‘tude, and really offering nothing to address the isolationist, agist attitude in DC.

I suggest you look at the “Join the Impact” site. There people of all orientation are discussing real issues and mobilizing to take real action to change communities and attitudes toward we gays. This site…not so much. I mean really, a review about show in which the plot involves the civil rights of vampires!?!? What is this fixation on vampires lately?

Has anyone here heard of Prop 8. Thankfully, not all of us are “over the rainbow”, some of us are still working for human rights.

I’m saying TNG is not fulfilling some sort of need, I guess if you’re in some denial and your life is limited to the Logan/Dupont circle NPR, acoustic guitar, oh so sensitive crowd…ok. I guess you found your place.

Also not saying that we as a community cannot have fun. But when you profess to be “alternative” and put out the same yarn the Blade and Advocate offer, I beg to differ.

There are so many issues we as a community need to care. Like unity within our community, for one. Yet most of the items on TNG, reminds me of adolescents striving to find self identification, by insisting just how different they are from everyone else – from the world! TNG…not really. We’re all just people.

Before anyone says it..I know I have the right to read whatever blog or site I want to and am free to do so…you guys…lighten up. Explore!

I have no connection to Join the Impact web site, other than submitting comments here and there. But it does seem less exclusive and more alternative than TNG professes to be. So David, and those who bother to read this…make the switch. Or at least, come and join the conversation. It’s actually fun.

I want to see a community where everyone is accepting and open. This doesn’t seem to be an unreasonable request. Before I came out, I hung out almost exclusively with straight people, mostly guys, and I found all of them relatively accepting. When I talk to straight guys now, even when I’m pretty flamboyant around them, I find them relatively accepting. I find communities that are willing to open up and welcome new people quickly. Not so in the gay world. The gay world is incredibly cliquish. And it shouldn’t be this way. Why are we less welcoming and accepting than any given group, when at least here we share all share one common and very significant attribute.

I’m not talking about perfect harmony. I’m not talking about a melting pot so thoroughly stirred that it is all one consistency. That is impossible, and moreover, undesirable and boring. I’m just talking about a community, where people are willing to give their fellow human being at least the time of day, the chance to make a first impression, and maybe a second, before deciding to disregard them.

I for one, on a normal day, am willing to speak to whomever wants to talk to me, provided that show decent respect to my space, my person and my rights.

(I grew up there, by the way).

Love –
mattilda

*no I don’t work for the Mouse*

Thanks for providing a site I can admire from afar and know that while I’m surrounded by “old gays” there are others like me out there…so until we change the world I’ll gaze at the stars knowing we aren’t alone.

Unfortunately, after reading only a few offerings, I realized that the same old diatribe that I’ve read elsewhere, about how awful the gay world is and that whatever this generation is offering, is far better than the old. Really kids…I mean..really. Is this what you mean by “new”. As far as I could tell…racism, agism, sexism, have been part and parcel characteristics of our community for years.

What is it that we as a community is looking? New ways to meet people? I think there are gazillions of ways doing that. We just can’t expect it to be a la Harlequin novel. New forms for creative conversation and expression? Well, that’s entirely personal, isn’t it? Shouldn’t we promote individuality in our community? Hipper, trendier, settings in which everyone can feel welcome? Well..”Earth to TNG…” Reminder..this is the USA…home of racially and economically divided. And even, if hipper and trendy settings were to open, who among us will define what hip and trendy are? There will always be some of us that will feel “left out”, unwelcome, not pretty enough, not skinny enough, not buffed enough, not young enough, not stud enough, well just not enough. And most assuredly “TOO OLD” to fit in.

For instance, read your own bar review and ratings. Why is it the 9:30 club is “Highly recommended” and the Bachelors Mill, gets only a mention? Why, some may even think these reviews to be somewhat preferential. Isn’t that what this site is trying to eliminate? Isn’t the idea that we should be thinking in a more inclusive way? Why not rate Bachelors Mill as “Highly recommended”? Hmmm..not hip enough, not indie enough…not white enough..not (fill in the blank) enough?

Personally, I’ve been to Taint,Bachelors Mill, Guerilla Queer, Crack, Fuego, Liv, Cobalt, Omega, blah..blah..blah and have satisfactorily come to one conclusion: no matter whatever it is we, “the gay community” is searching for, bottom line is that we are all looking to get laid and have some fun. How ever one defines that.

This site, like soooo many ites and rags, and generations before you profess to be the “new gays”, but in all honesty, are we all just looking for the same ol’ thing called….love? God forbid that we should just do that.

ENOUGH!

DARE TO BE WHO YOU ARE!