Comments on: Dude, Where’s the Keg?: Gay DC House Party Etiquette http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html For Everyone Over the Rainbow Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:32:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: dave http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2667 dave Sat, 24 May 2008 00:14:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2667 well, i host parties in dc... but they are naked parties, so there's no angst over whether to wear your collared polo or not. and i definitely don't use evites because most attendees want to be discreet.<br/><br/>they're for guys and girls (bi-male/bi-female parties, also all-male parties).<br/><br/>info at havingparties.blogspot.com well, i host parties in dc… but they are naked parties, so there’s no angst over whether to wear your collared polo or not. and i definitely don’t use evites because most attendees want to be discreet.

they’re for guys and girls (bi-male/bi-female parties, also all-male parties).

info at havingparties.blogspot.com

]]> By: Hans Nelson http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2666 Hans Nelson Tue, 20 May 2008 18:42:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2666 Ice cream?! I'm in! Thanks anonymousest! Ice cream?! I’m in! Thanks anonymousest!

]]> By: Anonymousest http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2665 Anonymousest Tue, 20 May 2008 18:39:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2665 Let's all go get some buy-one-get-one-free ice cream cones, and forget this whole thing ever happened! Whatya say?<br/><br/>http://baskinrobbins.com/coupon/softserve.html Let’s all go get some buy-one-get-one-free ice cream cones, and forget this whole thing ever happened! Whatya say?

http://baskinrobbins.com/coupon/softserve.html

]]> By: Anonymous http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2664 Anonymous Tue, 20 May 2008 03:08:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2664 uhm...the title of the blog is the new gay...and the point of the party is to create something new...and we're not humorless, we laugh our asses off you at you before we begin typing our posts.<br/><br/>if it was a fluff piece, it should have been treated as such, not as the source of a party that's supposed to be about doing something differently. and it was completely untrue of any gay party i've ever been to... uhm…the title of the blog is the new gay…and the point of the party is to create something new…and we’re not humorless, we laugh our asses off you at you before we begin typing our posts.

if it was a fluff piece, it should have been treated as such, not as the source of a party that’s supposed to be about doing something differently. and it was completely untrue of any gay party i’ve ever been to…

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2662 adam isn't here Tue, 20 May 2008 00:27:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2662 jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about "changing roles" and "alienation" and "striving for better understanding" with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert's awesome. jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about “changing roles” and “alienation” and “striving for better understanding” with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert’s awesome.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2663 adam isn't here Tue, 20 May 2008 00:27:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2663 jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about "changing roles" and "alienation" and "striving for better understanding" with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert's awesome. jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about “changing roles” and “alienation” and “striving for better understanding” with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert’s awesome.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2669 adam isn't here Tue, 20 May 2008 00:27:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2669 jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about "changing roles" and "alienation" and "striving for better understanding" with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert's awesome. jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about “changing roles” and “alienation” and “striving for better understanding” with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert’s awesome.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-3218 adam isn't here Tue, 20 May 2008 00:27:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-3218 jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about "changing roles" and "alienation" and "striving for better understanding" with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert's awesome. jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about “changing roles” and “alienation” and “striving for better understanding” with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert’s awesome.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-3219 adam isn't here Tue, 20 May 2008 00:27:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-3219 jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about "changing roles" and "alienation" and "striving for better understanding" with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert's awesome. jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about “changing roles” and “alienation” and “striving for better understanding” with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert’s awesome.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-3221 adam isn't here Tue, 20 May 2008 00:27:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-3221 jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about "changing roles" and "alienation" and "striving for better understanding" with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert's awesome. jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about “changing roles” and “alienation” and “striving for better understanding” with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert’s awesome.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-5862 adam isn't here Tue, 20 May 2008 00:27:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-5862 jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about "changing roles" and "alienation" and "striving for better understanding" with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert's awesome. jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about “changing roles” and “alienation” and “striving for better understanding” with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert’s awesome.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-5863 adam isn't here Tue, 20 May 2008 00:27:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-5863 jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about "changing roles" and "alienation" and "striving for better understanding" with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert's awesome. jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about “changing roles” and “alienation” and “striving for better understanding” with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert’s awesome.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-5865 adam isn't here Tue, 20 May 2008 00:27:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-5865 jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about "changing roles" and "alienation" and "striving for better understanding" with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert's awesome. jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about “changing roles” and “alienation” and “striving for better understanding” with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert’s awesome.

]]> By: Anonymous http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2661 Anonymous Mon, 19 May 2008 23:55:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2661 uhm, this posting is just so disappointing on so many levels. an interesting conversation could have been started about the changing role of gay etiquette brought on by sites like evite or facebook, but instead the new gay opted for homophobic quips. anyone who has ever bottomed should never again speak to robert in public (or hook up with him in private). how could anyone feel welcome at your just-say-no nancy reagan party???<br/><br/>love forever. eat fascists for dinner. uhm, this posting is just so disappointing on so many levels. an interesting conversation could have been started about the changing role of gay etiquette brought on by sites like evite or facebook, but instead the new gay opted for homophobic quips. anyone who has ever bottomed should never again speak to robert in public (or hook up with him in private). how could anyone feel welcome at your just-say-no nancy reagan party???

love forever. eat fascists for dinner.

]]> By: Anonymouser http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2660 Anonymouser Mon, 19 May 2008 21:45:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2660 I get that Robert's post was tongue and cheek and meant to be humorous. But I still think it's part of a pattern beginning to stretch across a lot of posts here, where "defining one's self instead of being defined" means tearing down everything about "mainstream" gay culture - often behind the thin veneer of humor.<br/><br/>I'm sure it's not a hive mentality, but it's something I'm noticing more and more. But perhaps I'm the only reader to think so. I get that Robert’s post was tongue and cheek and meant to be humorous. But I still think it’s part of a pattern beginning to stretch across a lot of posts here, where “defining one’s self instead of being defined” means tearing down everything about “mainstream” gay culture – often behind the thin veneer of humor.

I’m sure it’s not a hive mentality, but it’s something I’m noticing more and more. But perhaps I’m the only reader to think so.

]]> By: party monster http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2659 party monster Mon, 19 May 2008 21:29:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2659 if you were a lady, i'd totally bump bagels <3 if you were a lady, i’d totally bump bagels <3

]]> By: Robert http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2658 Robert Mon, 19 May 2008 20:59:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2658 Anonymous,<br/><br/>My post was entirely tongue and cheek, not a TNG manifesto.<br/><br/>If you cannot detect humor and sarcasm, you are probably not going to enjoy the site (or least my posts). <br/> <br/>Party monster,<br/>Would you like to go on a date with me?<br/><br/>Robert Anonymous,

My post was entirely tongue and cheek, not a TNG manifesto.

If you cannot detect humor and sarcasm, you are probably not going to enjoy the site (or least my posts).

Party monster,
Would you like to go on a date with me?

Robert

]]> By: party monster http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2657 party monster Mon, 19 May 2008 20:49:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2657 i'm putting the finishing touches on a lean-to in rock creek park. no man, beast, or wood sprite shall be barred. i'm pretty sure the creek flows with a schlitz-like afterbirth, this time of year. party on. i’m putting the finishing touches on a lean-to in rock creek park. no man, beast, or wood sprite shall be barred. i’m pretty sure the creek flows with a schlitz-like afterbirth, this time of year. party on.

]]> By: Michael http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2656 Michael Mon, 19 May 2008 19:33:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2656 Hey, Anon... Reread the What is the New Gay post. It says that our common bond is the fact that we define our selves instead of letting mainstream culture define us. Just because we have something in common does not mean we operate with a hive mind. Hey, Anon… Reread the What is the New Gay post. It says that our common bond is the fact that we define our selves instead of letting mainstream culture define us. Just because we have something in common does not mean we operate with a hive mind.

]]> By: Anonymous #1 http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2655 Anonymous #1 Mon, 19 May 2008 19:26:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2655 Really, Jenny, because the manifesto says that's the "common bond" among the people who write for the blog.<br/><br/>I understand that you are aware of the issues with space and service with Solly's, but I think it's kind of hypocritical to read a post like Robert's that attacks almost every aspect of other people's parties (music, bathrooms, drinks, dress) when there are problems with your own event as well. Really, Jenny, because the manifesto says that’s the “common bond” among the people who write for the blog.

I understand that you are aware of the issues with space and service with Solly’s, but I think it’s kind of hypocritical to read a post like Robert’s that attacks almost every aspect of other people’s parties (music, bathrooms, drinks, dress) when there are problems with your own event as well.

]]> By: Michael http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2654 Michael Mon, 19 May 2008 19:20:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2654 We've searched high and low for another accessible venue that wants to give us a Thursday night. We haven't found much. We'll definitely entertain any ideas anyone has.<br/><br/>Jenny, as for shorts... I'm fine with 'em. Shorts always beg the question: which shoes. And to that I have no answer. Of course, it depends on the shorts. We’ve searched high and low for another accessible venue that wants to give us a Thursday night. We haven’t found much. We’ll definitely entertain any ideas anyone has.

Jenny, as for shorts… I’m fine with ‘em. Shorts always beg the question: which shoes. And to that I have no answer. Of course, it depends on the shorts.

]]> By: Jenny Miller http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2653 Jenny Miller Mon, 19 May 2008 19:14:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2653 Every post by every person doesn't reflect some "TNG Platform." And I was genuinely asking for venue suggestions, because we're aware of the issues with space and service, and we are trying to improve the events.<br/><br/>Goodness, everyone sure gets riled up... Every post by every person doesn’t reflect some “TNG Platform.” And I was genuinely asking for venue suggestions, because we’re aware of the issues with space and service, and we are trying to improve the events.

Goodness, everyone sure gets riled up…

]]> By: Anonymous #1 http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2652 Anonymous #1 Mon, 19 May 2008 19:07:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2652 Jenny Miller, I think you missed my point, which is along the lines of people in glass houses shouldn't throw rocks... Jenny Miller, I think you missed my point, which is along the lines of people in glass houses shouldn’t throw rocks…

]]> By: Anonymous http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2651 Anonymous Mon, 19 May 2008 19:02:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2651 If Evite is the invitation equivalent of a Wal-Mart or a Pizza Hut, does that mean that the Facebook invitation I got to The New Gay party on Thursday is the equivalent of K-mart or Bojangles?<br/><br/>For a blog that purports to "define ourselves instead of letting a narrowly defined mainstream gay culture do it for us," there sure are a lot of rules to follow to fit into the "alternative" gay culture. Is there a purple pill I can take?<br/><br/>Is the point of this blog to encourage an inclusive community for everyone? Because lately it seems to be veering into simply providing a venue for the oppressed to become the oppressors - which doesn't seem like it will make anyone better off.<br/><br/>Creating a truly inclusive gay community requires building up, not tearing down others. This is a wonderful place to talk about lesser known queer events and opportunities and ideas, but it doesn't need to be a place where things that don't fall into that category are torn apart.<br/><br/>Making fun of house parties where everyone is dressed the same and listens to Whitney Houston just serves to alienate "mainstream" gays in the same way that they alienate "alternative" gays because they are different.<br/><br/>Next time you are at a party where there is more booze than mixers, make the party better for everyone and just buy some more mixers. If Evite is the invitation equivalent of a Wal-Mart or a Pizza Hut, does that mean that the Facebook invitation I got to The New Gay party on Thursday is the equivalent of K-mart or Bojangles?

For a blog that purports to “define ourselves instead of letting a narrowly defined mainstream gay culture do it for us,” there sure are a lot of rules to follow to fit into the “alternative” gay culture. Is there a purple pill I can take?

Is the point of this blog to encourage an inclusive community for everyone? Because lately it seems to be veering into simply providing a venue for the oppressed to become the oppressors – which doesn’t seem like it will make anyone better off.

Creating a truly inclusive gay community requires building up, not tearing down others. This is a wonderful place to talk about lesser known queer events and opportunities and ideas, but it doesn’t need to be a place where things that don’t fall into that category are torn apart.

Making fun of house parties where everyone is dressed the same and listens to Whitney Houston just serves to alienate “mainstream” gays in the same way that they alienate “alternative” gays because they are different.

Next time you are at a party where there is more booze than mixers, make the party better for everyone and just buy some more mixers.

]]> By: Jenny Miller http://thenewgay.net/2008/05/dude-wheres-keg-gay-dc-house-party.html#comment-2650 Jenny Miller Mon, 19 May 2008 18:54:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/dude-wheres-the-keg-gay-dc-house-party-etiquette/#comment-2650 New Gays for Shorts! Anyone?<br/><br/>Anonymous, if you have suggestions for a venue with adequate space, service and ventilation, let us know. New Gays for Shorts! Anyone?

Anonymous, if you have suggestions for a venue with adequate space, service and ventilation, let us know.

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