Comments on: Commentary: Thank You Sir, but, Uhhh – No, Thank You… http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-no-thank-you.html For Everyone Over the Rainbow Fri, 10 Feb 2012 04:21:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: stephanie http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-no-thank-you.html#comment-1974 stephanie Tue, 22 Apr 2008 11:16:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/17/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-%e2%80%93-no-thank-you%e2%80%a6/#comment-1974 i will, and also tell my friends to, stop handing out medals of valor while on 14th street. i will, and also tell my friends to, stop handing out medals of valor while on 14th street.

]]> By: onestepahead http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-no-thank-you.html#comment-1973 onestepahead Tue, 22 Apr 2008 04:17:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/17/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-%e2%80%93-no-thank-you%e2%80%a6/#comment-1973 A good number of people are largely unaware of homosexuality and thus wrongly presume you will be interested in them. Men, who are much more frequently guilty of such incivility, are used to getting away with this behavior since straight women tend to have surprisingly low standards for men. <br/>I don't mean to pin the blame on women whatsoever, but I think straight men would be put in their place if straight women condemned such behavior as brutish, inconsiderate, and declassé, instead of impressively bold and virile. A good number of people are largely unaware of homosexuality and thus wrongly presume you will be interested in them. Men, who are much more frequently guilty of such incivility, are used to getting away with this behavior since straight women tend to have surprisingly low standards for men.
I don’t mean to pin the blame on women whatsoever, but I think straight men would be put in their place if straight women condemned such behavior as brutish, inconsiderate, and declassé, instead of impressively bold and virile.

]]> By: coach http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-no-thank-you.html#comment-1972 coach Fri, 18 Apr 2008 03:12:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/17/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-%e2%80%93-no-thank-you%e2%80%a6/#comment-1972 haha, chipotle! <br/>the crazier the response, the better. like curtsie, then punch them in the face. haha, chipotle!
the crazier the response, the better. like curtsie, then punch them in the face.

]]> By: stephanie http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-no-thank-you.html#comment-1971 stephanie Fri, 18 Apr 2008 00:20:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/17/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-%e2%80%93-no-thank-you%e2%80%a6/#comment-1971 and michael, i just watched that video - amazing. "i wouldn't even give you a fake phone number." that girl's got SASS. and michael, i just watched that video – amazing. “i wouldn’t even give you a fake phone number.” that girl’s got SASS.

]]> By: Anonymous http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-no-thank-you.html#comment-1970 Anonymous Thu, 17 Apr 2008 22:20:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/17/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-%e2%80%93-no-thank-you%e2%80%a6/#comment-1970 sweety, it is spring...i fear that street harrassers hear all sorts of negative comments meant to stop them...i'm all for whatever you need to do to feel safe...<br/><br/>perhaps a novel approach might be fun since you're going to have to deal with it anyway...they may even start paying attention if you respond in a way so different that it makes an impression on them...maybe even something playful, like...<br/><br/>'honey...when hell freezes over...or when we get a better president. in fact, why don't you go register and then vote for obama in november and then maybe i holla at yo' sweety, it is spring…i fear that street harrassers hear all sorts of negative comments meant to stop them…i’m all for whatever you need to do to feel safe…

perhaps a novel approach might be fun since you’re going to have to deal with it anyway…they may even start paying attention if you respond in a way so different that it makes an impression on them…maybe even something playful, like…

‘honey…when hell freezes over…or when we get a better president. in fact, why don’t you go register and then vote for obama in november and then maybe i holla at yo’

]]> By: stephanie http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-no-thank-you.html#comment-1969 stephanie Thu, 17 Apr 2008 21:44:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/17/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-%e2%80%93-no-thank-you%e2%80%a6/#comment-1969 i have an addendum:<br/><br/>the cat-calling in the post happened thursday night. then, friday night while i was waiting for a cab to a DYKE BAR a man started staring at me and then asked how i'm doing, i politely said good and returned the inquiry to which he responded, "i'm doing great, just standin' here lookin' at your pretty blue eyes - can i get your number?" luckily a cab pulled up. THEN, on saturday i was walking home from the falafel shop and some guys STOPPED THEIR CAR in the middle of a dark crosswalk to holler at me; this time i was drunkly stupid enough to tell them to go fuck themselves. appropriate response? i think so.<br/><br/>i think i may stop thinking about responses and just start going out at night with a paper bag over my head that is big enough to cover my boobs, too. i have an addendum:

the cat-calling in the post happened thursday night. then, friday night while i was waiting for a cab to a DYKE BAR a man started staring at me and then asked how i’m doing, i politely said good and returned the inquiry to which he responded, “i’m doing great, just standin’ here lookin’ at your pretty blue eyes – can i get your number?” luckily a cab pulled up. THEN, on saturday i was walking home from the falafel shop and some guys STOPPED THEIR CAR in the middle of a dark crosswalk to holler at me; this time i was drunkly stupid enough to tell them to go fuck themselves. appropriate response? i think so.

i think i may stop thinking about responses and just start going out at night with a paper bag over my head that is big enough to cover my boobs, too.

]]> By: Allison http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-no-thank-you.html#comment-1968 Allison Thu, 17 Apr 2008 21:06:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/17/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-%e2%80%93-no-thank-you%e2%80%a6/#comment-1968 Thanks, Ms. C. I chose to delete my previous comment and be more specific about the area in which the harassment occurred.<br/><br/>Maybe you really do just smell really good? Thanks, Ms. C. I chose to delete my previous comment and be more specific about the area in which the harassment occurred.

Maybe you really do just smell really good?

]]> By: Allison http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-no-thank-you.html#comment-1967 Allison Thu, 17 Apr 2008 21:04:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/17/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-%e2%80%93-no-thank-you%e2%80%a6/#comment-1967 A few weeks ago near Logan Circle, a man asked me: "What do you taste like?" I said "Chipotle." A few weeks ago near Logan Circle, a man asked me: “What do you taste like?” I said “Chipotle.”

]]> By: Ms. Cavanaugh http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-no-thank-you.html#comment-1966 Ms. Cavanaugh Thu, 17 Apr 2008 21:03:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/17/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-%e2%80%93-no-thank-you%e2%80%a6/#comment-1966 Allison, that's great.<br/><br/>Is there an appropriate response to cat calls? Like the man who leaned into my neck and said "You smell so fucking good." My response was a look of horror, but I'm thinking that he hasn't stopped harassing girls needlessly. Allison, that’s great.

Is there an appropriate response to cat calls? Like the man who leaned into my neck and said “You smell so fucking good.” My response was a look of horror, but I’m thinking that he hasn’t stopped harassing girls needlessly.

]]> By: Michael http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-no-thank-you.html#comment-1965 Michael Thu, 17 Apr 2008 21:02:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/17/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-%e2%80%93-no-thank-you%e2%80%a6/#comment-1965 From the <a HREF="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iemfvh6yr8Q" REL="nofollow">above-linked video</a>: <i>"My name is Toya, and I think that street harrassment in Columbia Heights is off the hook!"</i> From the above-linked video: “My name is Toya, and I think that street harrassment in Columbia Heights is off the hook!”

]]> By: Michael http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-no-thank-you.html#comment-1964 Michael Thu, 17 Apr 2008 21:00:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/17/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-%e2%80%93-no-thank-you%e2%80%a6/#comment-1964 There was a <a HREF="http://www.washingtoncitypaper.com/display.php?id=1859" REL="nofollow">Washington City Paper article</a> on this topic about a year ago.<br/><br/>The <a HREF="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iemfvh6yr8Q" REL="nofollow">video</a> is great. There was a Washington City Paper article on this topic about a year ago.

The video is great.

]]> By: K http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-no-thank-you.html#comment-1963 K Thu, 17 Apr 2008 20:49:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/17/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-%e2%80%93-no-thank-you%e2%80%a6/#comment-1963 I just remembered <a HREF="http://hollabacknyc.blogspot.com" REL="nofollow">HollabackNYC</a> and subsequently found a few related resources, courtesy of Google: <a HREF="http://www.streetharassmentproject.org/index.html" REL="nofollow">The Street Harrassment Project</a> and <a HREF="http://dontbesilent3.blogspot.com" REL="nofollow">Don't Be Silent</a>. There's also an interesting <a HREF="http://www.salon.com/news/feature/1999/05/21/harassment/" REL="nofollow">Salon article</a> on the topic (it's kind of old but still relevant), which anecdotally cites DC as one of the worst cities in the US when it comes to street harrassment. (I also love that the song "No Scrubs" is mentioned in said article. Oh, 1999...) I just remembered HollabackNYC and subsequently found a few related resources, courtesy of Google: The Street Harrassment Project and Don’t Be Silent. There’s also an interesting Salon article on the topic (it’s kind of old but still relevant), which anecdotally cites DC as one of the worst cities in the US when it comes to street harrassment. (I also love that the song “No Scrubs” is mentioned in said article. Oh, 1999…)

]]> By: Ms. Cavanaugh http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-no-thank-you.html#comment-1962 Ms. Cavanaugh Thu, 17 Apr 2008 20:09:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/17/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-%e2%80%93-no-thank-you%e2%80%a6/#comment-1962 I think there's something special about Columbia Heights. I was leered at three times today while I was still on my own street, and the downside to warm weather is that I can't walk anywhere in this city without one comment or another. Some of the things men have said to me are pretty disgusting.<br/><br/>I posted <a HREF="http://itspimmsoclock.blogspot.com/2007/09/street-harassment.html" REL="nofollow">this</a> on my own blog about an extreme example last fall, and I wish that these guys would stop. It doesn't make me feel good one bit. I think there’s something special about Columbia Heights. I was leered at three times today while I was still on my own street, and the downside to warm weather is that I can’t walk anywhere in this city without one comment or another. Some of the things men have said to me are pretty disgusting.

I posted this on my own blog about an extreme example last fall, and I wish that these guys would stop. It doesn’t make me feel good one bit.

]]> By: K http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-no-thank-you.html#comment-1961 K Thu, 17 Apr 2008 20:01:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/17/thank-you-sir-but-uhhh-%e2%80%93-no-thank-you%e2%80%a6/#comment-1961 I look enough like a dude (I have short hair, am tall, and mostly wear guys' clothes) that I almost never get cat called by men anymore (although the other day, near my place in Columbia Heights, a guy did roll down his car window to yell "fag!" at me, to which I replied "thanks!). I do, however, have a few gay lady friends who are by no means high femme and who get hollered at by guys (of all ages and races) with some frequency. I guess some guys just don't get it. I look enough like a dude (I have short hair, am tall, and mostly wear guys’ clothes) that I almost never get cat called by men anymore (although the other day, near my place in Columbia Heights, a guy did roll down his car window to yell “fag!” at me, to which I replied “thanks!). I do, however, have a few gay lady friends who are by no means high femme and who get hollered at by guys (of all ages and races) with some frequency. I guess some guys just don’t get it.

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