Comments on: Commentary: Lez Be Friends http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html For Everyone Over the Rainbow Thu, 24 May 2012 04:53:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Anonymous http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1827 Anonymous Mon, 28 Apr 2008 03:17:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1827 I'm right there with you about everything you wrote. I can really use a queer friend right now. I'm newly out and though at school I had a wonderful queer community I now have zero, ZERO! lezzie friends. Sigh, I think next time I'm out I'll bet myself one beer if I can say hello to someone and learn their name.<br/><br/>Excellent post I’m right there with you about everything you wrote. I can really use a queer friend right now. I’m newly out and though at school I had a wonderful queer community I now have zero, ZERO! lezzie friends. Sigh, I think next time I’m out I’ll bet myself one beer if I can say hello to someone and learn their name.

Excellent post

]]> By: Anonymous http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1826 Anonymous Thu, 17 Apr 2008 13:15:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1826 This is true...but having lived in the city for 7 years i have to say you can only experience the gay culture in D.C. only by living in the middle of it. No matter how shy you are just walking out your door and going to tryst (ex.) on sunday afternoon you're bound to meet someone. they might not be gay but at least you're meeting "people". Suburban life tends to make people want to stay home and who wants to take the metro or ride around all the time. especially if it's to the same event. and once you start meeting people in the city, then that opens you up to queer house parties which happen every weekend at someone's house in the spring/summer. The queer community is everyone in D.C.. you just have to put yourself in a situation to be a part of it. One more thing...compared to a LOT of queer cities D.C ranks in the top 3 as far as diversity and things to do on any given week. So, don't take that for granted:) This is true…but having lived in the city for 7 years i have to say you can only experience the gay culture in D.C. only by living in the middle of it. No matter how shy you are just walking out your door and going to tryst (ex.) on sunday afternoon you’re bound to meet someone. they might not be gay but at least you’re meeting “people”. Suburban life tends to make people want to stay home and who wants to take the metro or ride around all the time. especially if it’s to the same event. and once you start meeting people in the city, then that opens you up to queer house parties which happen every weekend at someone’s house in the spring/summer. The queer community is everyone in D.C.. you just have to put yourself in a situation to be a part of it. One more thing…compared to a LOT of queer cities D.C ranks in the top 3 as far as diversity and things to do on any given week. So, don’t take that for granted:)

]]> By: jessica http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1825 jessica Wed, 16 Apr 2008 03:12:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1825 stephanie, i think your post is right on. come to think of it, i, too, live in columbia heights... and all too often, err on the side of not stepping out to meet new people... you wanna grab coffee sometime? i'm at jplock.com[at]gmail...<br/><br/>thanks for the post! stephanie, i think your post is right on. come to think of it, i, too, live in columbia heights… and all too often, err on the side of not stepping out to meet new people… you wanna grab coffee sometime? i’m at jplock.com[at]gmail…

thanks for the post!

]]> By: Michael http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1824 Michael Tue, 15 Apr 2008 23:28:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1824 Maybe TNG needs to start a matchmaking service, linking up lesbians and gay men for friendships. I could use a new female friend or two. Maybe TNG needs to start a matchmaking service, linking up lesbians and gay men for friendships. I could use a new female friend or two.

]]> By: Anonymous http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1823 Anonymous Tue, 15 Apr 2008 22:45:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1823 you are right on point about it being hard to meet other homo friends. i don't work in a gay org and my co-workers are all straight. you say there is a womens night tomorrow at bebar? i may venture out alone just to see, although its getting old and im ready for a wing-man (thats what dykes have-- wing-men) you are right on point about it being hard to meet other homo friends. i don’t work in a gay org and my co-workers are all straight. you say there is a womens night tomorrow at bebar? i may venture out alone just to see, although its getting old and im ready for a wing-man (thats what dykes have– wing-men)

]]> By: Laura http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1822 Laura Tue, 15 Apr 2008 21:01:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1822 What a coincidence! Amongst the festivities that very same night, my friends and I noticed a shy-looking, red-headed girl wearing a red hoodie sitting alone at the bar. A friend of mine pointed out that it looked like she didn't know a soul in the place and looked a bit lonely. I suggested to my friend that she go talk to her, but she refused... saying she couldn't, but I should. I dropped the issue for a bit, then implored another friend of mine to go talk to her. Thinking maybe they'd hit it off. Friend #2, also a chicken, apparently. Eventually, the girl gathered her things (umbrella, etc.) and headed for the door. I once again beseeched my friends, but they continued with their excuses. I decided to grow some cajones and go after the girl... in the most non-stalker, non-creepy, and platonic way, of course. I caught up to her just outside the door and said, "hey, are you leaving?" She said, "yeah, I have to get up early in the morning to volunteer." I said something like, "Well, it looked like you might be leaving because you didn't know anyone there. My friends and I kind of noticed, but were too chicken shit to say hi." She smiled and said, "Yeah, I was too chicken shit to say hi to anyone too!" I said, "How about I walk you to your car?" She said she was taking the metro, but we could walk and talk there together. We ended up having a very pleasant little conversation on the way to Eastern Market Metro stop. When we got there, I ended it with something like, "Nice meeting you. Ya know, we don't bite, so next time come over and say hi." She laughed, said something like, "Yeah, nice to meet you too. Thanks." and off she went. I went back to the bar and all my friends were impressed. Eh, anyone could have done it. I hope more people do introduce themselves and say hi. So Stephanie (who I hope to meet one of these days), it does happen, though not often enough, as you so astutely point out. And there are nice, friendly, queer girls out there. Try wearing red next time. ;-) What a coincidence! Amongst the festivities that very same night, my friends and I noticed a shy-looking, red-headed girl wearing a red hoodie sitting alone at the bar. A friend of mine pointed out that it looked like she didn’t know a soul in the place and looked a bit lonely. I suggested to my friend that she go talk to her, but she refused… saying she couldn’t, but I should. I dropped the issue for a bit, then implored another friend of mine to go talk to her. Thinking maybe they’d hit it off. Friend #2, also a chicken, apparently. Eventually, the girl gathered her things (umbrella, etc.) and headed for the door. I once again beseeched my friends, but they continued with their excuses. I decided to grow some cajones and go after the girl… in the most non-stalker, non-creepy, and platonic way, of course. I caught up to her just outside the door and said, “hey, are you leaving?” She said, “yeah, I have to get up early in the morning to volunteer.” I said something like, “Well, it looked like you might be leaving because you didn’t know anyone there. My friends and I kind of noticed, but were too chicken shit to say hi.” She smiled and said, “Yeah, I was too chicken shit to say hi to anyone too!” I said, “How about I walk you to your car?” She said she was taking the metro, but we could walk and talk there together. We ended up having a very pleasant little conversation on the way to Eastern Market Metro stop. When we got there, I ended it with something like, “Nice meeting you. Ya know, we don’t bite, so next time come over and say hi.” She laughed, said something like, “Yeah, nice to meet you too. Thanks.” and off she went. I went back to the bar and all my friends were impressed. Eh, anyone could have done it. I hope more people do introduce themselves and say hi. So Stephanie (who I hope to meet one of these days), it does happen, though not often enough, as you so astutely point out. And there are nice, friendly, queer girls out there. Try wearing red next time. ;-)

]]> By: stephanie http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1821 stephanie Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:40:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1821 i call straight guys who hang out with lesbians "closeted gay men." sure, it doesn't rhyme, but it usually fits. i call straight guys who hang out with lesbians “closeted gay men.” sure, it doesn’t rhyme, but it usually fits.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1819 adam isn't here Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:19:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1819 craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me...you lezzies just kill me. <br/><br/>i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven't met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who's penis i've never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that. craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me…you lezzies just kill me.

i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven’t met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who’s penis i’ve never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1820 adam isn't here Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:19:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1820 craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me...you lezzies just kill me. <br/><br/>i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven't met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who's penis i've never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that. craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me…you lezzies just kill me.

i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven’t met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who’s penis i’ve never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1828 adam isn't here Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:19:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1828 craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me...you lezzies just kill me. <br/><br/>i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven't met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who's penis i've never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that. craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me…you lezzies just kill me.

i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven’t met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who’s penis i’ve never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-3099 adam isn't here Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:19:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-3099 craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me...you lezzies just kill me. <br/><br/>i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven't met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who's penis i've never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that. craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me…you lezzies just kill me.

i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven’t met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who’s penis i’ve never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-3100 adam isn't here Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:19:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-3100 craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me...you lezzies just kill me. <br/><br/>i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven't met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who's penis i've never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that. craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me…you lezzies just kill me.

i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven’t met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who’s penis i’ve never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-3101 adam isn't here Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:19:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-3101 craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me...you lezzies just kill me. <br/><br/>i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven't met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who's penis i've never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that. craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me…you lezzies just kill me.

i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven’t met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who’s penis i’ve never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-5743 adam isn't here Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:19:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-5743 craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me...you lezzies just kill me. <br/><br/>i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven't met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who's penis i've never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that. craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me…you lezzies just kill me.

i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven’t met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who’s penis i’ve never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-5744 adam isn't here Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:19:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-5744 craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me...you lezzies just kill me. <br/><br/>i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven't met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who's penis i've never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that. craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me…you lezzies just kill me.

i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven’t met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who’s penis i’ve never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that.

]]> By: adam isn't here http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-5745 adam isn't here Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:19:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-5745 craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me...you lezzies just kill me. <br/><br/>i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven't met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who's penis i've never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that. craving a box of DOTS more than any of the women around me…you lezzies just kill me.

i had a bunch of dyke friends back home (and they were hilAAAARious) but haven’t met any here. i met most of them through a fag friend of mine (one of the few who’s penis i’ve never touched incidentally) who seemed to only have lesbian friends. never thought up a catchy name for that.

]]> By: Ms. Cavanaugh http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1818 Ms. Cavanaugh Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:14:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1818 I've never heard "dyke tyke," but the only straight men who seem interested in my sexual orientation either want to have a threesome or ask me for sex advice. I’ve never heard “dyke tyke,” but the only straight men who seem interested in my sexual orientation either want to have a threesome or ask me for sex advice.

]]> By: Zack http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1816 Zack Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:12:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1816 I've heard the term "Dyke Tyke" before, but I've rarely met such a guy. I’ve heard the term “Dyke Tyke” before, but I’ve rarely met such a guy.

]]> By: Zack http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1817 Zack Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:12:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1817 I've heard the term "Dyke Tyke" before, but I've rarely met such a guy. I’ve heard the term “Dyke Tyke” before, but I’ve rarely met such a guy.

]]> By: Allison http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1815 Allison Tue, 15 Apr 2008 19:50:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1815 Stephanie: Excellent post. Stephanie: Excellent post.

]]> By: Anonymous http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1814 Anonymous Tue, 15 Apr 2008 18:57:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1814 i call my straight guy friends my bros. unfortch, for dykes, hos trump bros. i call my straight guy friends my bros. unfortch, for dykes, hos trump bros.

]]> By: coach http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1813 coach Tue, 15 Apr 2008 18:56:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1813 you know where strangers will come up to you? freddie's beach bar in crystal city. that place is like self-esteem station if you're tired of cold shoulders. <br/>8 yrs of group house living in d.c. has pretty much given me my social armor. but then maybe even more so, if you roll with a posse, make the effort to reach out to those that don't. also, i try to do something self-depricating to convince the stranger i'm talkin to that i'm not hitting on them. you know where strangers will come up to you? freddie’s beach bar in crystal city. that place is like self-esteem station if you’re tired of cold shoulders.
8 yrs of group house living in d.c. has pretty much given me my social armor. but then maybe even more so, if you roll with a posse, make the effort to reach out to those that don’t. also, i try to do something self-depricating to convince the stranger i’m talkin to that i’m not hitting on them.

]]> By: Anonymous http://thenewgay.net/2008/04/lez-be-friends.html#comment-1812 Anonymous Tue, 15 Apr 2008 18:28:00 +0000 http://tngmichael.wordpress.com/2008/04/15/lez-be-friends/#comment-1812 What do you call straight guys who hang out with lesbians? is there such a thing, this equivalent to fag hags? What do you call straight guys who hang out with lesbians? is there such a thing, this equivalent to fag hags?

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